Oh, I like to play loud too

Well, because I do opera, so, my small room have to behave as a big opera theater. I think everybody hears me a few blocks away, despite the house is well insulated
Well, I always liked dramatic and powerful rough voices rather than tiny elegant voices. That does not mean I don't like the varied dynamic contrast, but each song should have its proper style. In the past (over a century ago) music was played very different. I think it was something environmental. The lack of proper heating, the great thermal change, fortified voices, hands, etc. So, people were more "impetuous", "metallic", even not properly tuned in their execution (the opposite of detailed), and also more choral. It was not important to play well, or in perfect tune, or even if an instrument in the orchestra stopped playing because he was having some difficulty with the pistons, etc. But they cared for the "overall color" and transferring a "whole" sensation to the listener. You can still hear that particular "sound" in Europe in old mountain choirs. They have a very particular response and tone. If you are looking to the past, listen to Toscanini, Furtwangler, or the old "deep basses" from Russia.
Nowadays, "deep basses" disappeared, mostly because of climate change. Since Karajan, the entire concept of music performance was reformed, and ruined. In modern times, "perfection" is sought. So, every instrument must be on time, play the right thing, with its clear melodic line. It seems everybody is a soloist, no longer an ensemble. Paradoxically, the stress on the dynamics and precision of every instrument, which should lead to a better listener experience, becomes lifeless. All performances are the same. They are merely historical reconstructions, but they convey nothing of their own to the listener. Singers are trained to save their voices, and sing "on the breath" so not to strain their voices too much. The public perceives this, and they become disaffected toward the old music.
If you compare an execution by Toscanini with a modern conductor, you will notice that in Toscanini every line emerges. You can hear well and clearly every instrument, but the whole behaves as a single body. He was always playing "louder" than other conductors. You had to hear the metal of the brass, etc. A modern conductor will seem void, shallow. And paradoxically, that shallowness gives the idea of a noisy performance where the melodic lines do not emerge (despite they were trying to reach exactly that).
Unfortunately, it is very rare today to hear some old-style performances, but if it happens, it is always an unforgettable transcending experience.
"The real opposite of love is not hate, but indifference" (Rabbi Adin Steinsaltz)