Broken Marraige

[crisipicada]

Marriage, for some, are just contract. A contract that can be cancelled or devolve. It is just so painful for the couple and most to the children affected.

My heart is so soft when it comes to that. For women who have in this situation, I hope and pray that it wont happen to me, and it is my desire to have a strong and loving family.

For those men who have been to this, and hear their stories, my heart always broken. How I wish I can be their wife that can heal their broken hearts, because for me, I am committed to love my future husband. I feel the pain because my parents separated for 14 years.

For children whose parents got divorced or separated, hatred and denial are the feelings they put in their hearts. They become bitter and live a life out of the world wherein they just waste their lives rather than live a life that is fruitful and meaningful. Some tend to go to drugs, unfaithful friends, and later on find their lives in the corner of bars in jail.

How sad about these things happen in our society.

If this happen to you, you might be the man or woman, or the child, how would you deal with these?

[cheryz]

Suppose you pray and fight and believe for the healing and restoration of your marriage and then in the end the divorce or separated goes through? Well, the most important thing for you to know is that your prayers are not in vein no matter what. Trust God for the outcome and for the unfolding of his good plan for your life. If you have surrendered your life to him, you will see it come to pass.

we had different kind of situation in life, but for me if his not faithful, untrustworthy for your love and not responsible then i could say i had to end this marriage because everytime you could fight for mistakes he/she has made, you cannot bring back the trust to someone once its broken because there doubtfulness for both. it takes many many years to heal even if you have kids it cant fix it, because you have children are affected then you probably continue to be with your partner? unless you dont fought often but if you fought more often i could say lets be apart!let be separated! our children may be affected but our feelings toward each other has fading so why we should fix? every now and then we fight to each other we could still fix it? i think no!
for me once my trust is broken then i could tell you i wont trust you anymore!!!

The mistakes you make can be used. These mistakes can only be used if you use them to press on with Christ’s agenda in your life and the lives of others. To tell yourself you do not make mistakes is to tell yourself a lie. A lie told to yourself is just as sinful as a lie told to someone else or told to God. A lie told to yourself usually ends up producing the same dark consequences as a lie told to someone else.

[cheryz]

Faith and Trust Follow Love

Faith and trust come after love, not before it. Love must always come first, and when love comes first, then faith and trust happen. Faith and trust come after love like the spring flowers come after the rain and warm weather. All winter the seeds and bulbs lay dormant in the ground. When warm weather and rain come then the miracle of God’s hand taps the bulbs and seeds and wakes them up.

[red]

Some of the broken marriages are result of indifference of attitude. Some of our attitudes never change and that affects to our relationship with others, mostly with someone you share life intimately. It takes strong love for a marriage to stand in all challenges. Love may cover everything but not all people can stand a bad attitude.

[cheryz]

The frustration of your spouse's lack of follow through on good intentions, or saying one thing and then doing another, or breaking promises can slowly erode both the emotional and physical intimacy in your marriage.

What can you do when faced with a spouse who has a serious behavior (gambles, drinks, spends too much money, has a very negative attitude, can't keep a job, is emotionally or physically abusive, doesn't make time for the children or spouse, is unfaithful, etc.) that could potentially destroy your marriage and your spouse won't change, isn't willing to work on improving your marriage.

[m&m]

I know that to have a broken marriage is terrible. I knew it because I am from a broken family. Again, the most affected aside from parents are children. Just like me, I came from a broken family and until now, I desire that mama and papa should have not separated. And if that so, I wont have such feeling of bitterness and frustration.

But while reading the book, I am OK-you are OK, I found out that all experiences in life is stored in our brain. All are saved and in due time, it will again process in our mind, and that become part of our life. Thus, it is important, from the very start of life, of children, parents should know and be good influence to their children. Because what upbringing in the family, soon they will be like that. Even in adults, parents have great influence still.

Simple things like telling right and good, nice words and positive thoughts and encouragement to children, makes their hearts feeling OK. Unlike me, most of my fathers words are harsh, discouragements, problems, difficulties. So until now, I feel frustrated if all that I can hear are those words. I just hope that when papa share that life was difficult, I just hope he still encourage me or us that this life is not all about problems. There are times, I made wrong decisions because I was thinking I cannot change life from difficulties and just live by it. Well, I am thankful, despite of that because there are Christian friends who has been there for me, and God used them for me/us.

[angel]

sometimes broken marriage is good to a couple who dont love each other.. it useless if they continue it. i know the sacrament they commit but if theres no love at all why do they have to in one house, they will argue and fight for it. the sad part is.. the children is very affected on that they done.

[m&m]

sometimes broken marriage is good to a couple who dont love each other.. it useless if they continue it. i know the sacrament they commit but if theres no love at all why do they have to in one house, they will argue and fight for it. the sad part is.. the children is very affected on that they done.

yes, that is true. I saw some happy married couple. But behind that, they have been through tough times too. What is good for them is that they always include the Lord in their married lives. They have devotional and seek the Lord's help that their relationship will become more stronger and stronger.