cheryz wrote:Love is complete acceptance: When we allow someone to be exactly as they are, without any belief that they aren’t good enough, without any belief that they would be “better” if they were different, this is love.
Love is completely unconditional: Love has no conditions. When we truly love someone, we can’t stop loving them, regardless of what they do or say. If our love is dependent upon the other person acting and speaking how we want, then this love is completely conditional. We often confuse this to be love, but this is just positive thoughts about someone. This is just loving what a person says or does, not loving them. Positive thoughts or the thought “I love you” isn’t necessary to love. Sometimes it even gets in the way.
Love is selfless: True love doesn’t want anything in return, because there is nothing it needs. We just love for the sake of love. When we love someone, we don’t look for them to fill our needs, love us back, and all those types of things. If that is what we are looking for, then we are just using the other person. What is the meaning of love? Love is completely selfless.
Based on my experienced, I have learned someone during college days even he did not know that I have feelings on him. I try not to have false expectation from me or from him because I know that it was not right time yet. And also I do not want to be distracted in studies and also, I do not want him to be a failure because of me neither to me.
I learn to love that person because of who he is. He was nice, good attitude, have listening heart and very good in converstation like he tries to understand and listen to us his classmates. When we are wrong with our studies, i mean, we did not get what the book it meant, he tries to and volunteer to share to us in a simple way and explain it. All I can see to him is that, he is so happy to share to us about his knowledge and willing for us to grow and be successful in studies. That makes me like him.
On the other hand, there are negative things also that I can see to see. There are times that there are mannerism i do not like. But then, that cannot hinder someone to love him because he has a good heart. He is intelligent, but do not argue. When the time we were working, we communicate in 2002. He is still so nice and willing to explain things in relation to math. He is just so good.
Honestly, he was very devoted person. He loves reading the BIble, praying and when one time he prayed for the food during birthday of one of our classmates, he was so sincere and you can see that he possess good values and attitude.
So, those are things why we can love someone, and relationship will be strong just in case someone will be into relationship. Love without demand.