How to Bring Out the Best in People

[crisipicada]

Thanks a lot, Sir Edwin. Thanks for reminding us. It is true that it is not our way to revenge but sometimes we do because we are hurt even not intentionally. My weakness is that i cry a lot when i am hurt. and my heart is so heavy

[edeline]

To bring the best in people is to encourage and motivate him. No other things that can help him is to motivate and always make him feeling good. Give possitive views and always make him feel good about himself.

ENCOURAGEMENT MAY BRING THE BEST OF THE PEOPLE BUT NOT AT ALL TIMES. LET US SAY WE CAN GIVE RIGHT ENCOURAGEMENT FOR THE CORRECT SITUATION. IT IS REALLY GOOD TO TELL AND PRAISE A PERSON HOW MUCH HE/SHE IS WORTH BUT IT SHOULD NOT BE ALL THE TIME BECAUSE NOT ALL THE TIMES IT IS ACCEPTABLE. I HAVE LEARNED FROM MY FRIEND BEFORE THAT SHE WAS SO GOOD TO ME BUT SHE WAS ALSO FRANK AND HONEST WHICH REALLY ENCOURAGED ME TO DO SOMETHING BETTER THE NEXT TIME. I WAS HURT FOR THE FIRST TIME AS I WAS THINKING THAT SHE WASN'T A GOOD FRIEND BUT LATER I REALIZED THAT BEING TRUE WHAT A PERSON SEES IN YOU N MATTER IF IT IS NEGATIVE WILL REALLY HELP YOU A LOT. SHE SAID SOME NEGATIVE THINGS ABOUT ME AND MADE ME AWARE TO CORRECT IT, IF IT HAPPENS THAT WE WILL JUST BE TELLING PRAISES ALL THE TIME TO PEOPLE I DON'T THINK SO IT WILL BE EFFECTIVE AS IT WILL SEEMS COMMON THAT ALL THEIR DOINGS ARE RIGHT. WE CAN ALSO BRING THE BEST OF TO PEOPLE BY TELLING SOME NEGATIVE THINGS BUT TRUE BECAUSE THAT WILL AWAKEN THEM.

[edeline]

Edeline, I am really glad that you have the gift of listening, caring, and helping. That is wonderful, and to save someone's life who is despondant is the greatest.

Teachers I think have a need to be listened to. I need to tell a little more about the time I got into trouble in school. What I did was that I laid my head on my desk. I was tired. The teacher tool offense to it, and told me to come with him next door. He thought I was sleeping I guess, but he was talking, and I thought I was listening. He was angry. I had a pair of work gloves in my back pocket as I did barn chores and needed them, so I just went to school with them still in my pocket. He pulled those gloves out of my pocket in a fit of rage, and took a 2 by 4 paddle, went back like you would swing with a bat to hit a ball, and hit me so hard that I almost landed on my head. He did that twice. The teacher who came to observe felt sorry for me, but he didn't dare take my side. He said, "Dave, now you can do better than that!" I was careful not to lay my head on my desk in his class again. He was a former prison guard, and I think that explained part of his behavior. At the time I didn't think that I cared about that occurrence, but years later someone who knew I had attended that school asked my daughter if I knew him, and then I realized that I really was angry with him over that. But I have to get rid of that anger because I am a Christian, and I live my life to please God, so I can't hold bitter, hard feelings against anyone for anything. If he is still alive he would be pretty old by now.

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Thanks Mr. Edwin for the appreciation. Well, I was so happy that she didn't do anything to herself. Anybody who will be in her position will have an immediate idea of giving up everything because she was thinking that she was just one but she wasn't. It was such a nice feeling that I was thanked because of that.

I am so sorry to hear about your experience in your school days. Yiu were still lucky that you didn't get a phobia or a trauma after that situation because if it happened on me I am not sure if I will still go back to school. What he did was just too much. I think he was too tired and just irritated when he was discussing and just found out that you were not listening to him. It is not easy to handle children of different levels, it really needs patience and devotion. It is in my mind that I should be very careful in handling the kids and always put in my mind that I am here to let them learn and not hurt them. Besides from that I don't have any right to hurt them. Yes there are times I am so irritated with my students but I am holding my temper as much as I can as I don't want to end up in the court being filed a case of the student's parents. Same as what happened to a public school teacher, it was I think 2 days before her retirement that she hit the student and it was being filed to the division. As a result, instead of receiving the pension which she was working for how many years she didn't get anything. A lesson for the teachers.

[Edwin]

Edeline, I am really glad that you have the gift of listening, caring, and helping. That is wonderful, and to save someone's life who is despondant is the greatest.

Teachers I think have a need to be listened to. I need to tell a little more about the time I got into trouble in school. What I did was that I laid my head on my desk. I was tired. The teacher tool offense to it, and told me to come with him next door. He thought I was sleeping I guess, but he was talking, and I thought I was listening. He was angry. I had a pair of work gloves in my back pocket as I did barn chores and needed them, so I just went to school with them still in my pocket. He pulled those gloves out of my pocket in a fit of rage, and took a 2 by 4 paddle, went back like you would swing with a bat to hit a ball, and hit me so hard that I almost landed on my head. He did that twice. The teacher who came to observe felt sorry for me, but he didn't dare take my side. He said, "Dave, now you can do better than that!" I was careful not to lay my head on my desk in his class again. He was a former prison guard, and I think that explained part of his behavior. At the time I didn't think that I cared about that occurrence, but years later someone who knew I had attended that school asked my daughter if I knew him, and then I realized that I really was angry with him over that. But I have to get rid of that anger because I am a Christian, and I live my life to please God, so I can't hold bitter, hard feelings against anyone for anything. If he is still alive he would be pretty old by now.

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Thanks Mr. Edwin for the appreciation. Well, I was so happy that she didn't do anything to herself. Anybody who will be in her position will have an immediate idea of giving up everything because she was thinking that she was just one but she wasn't. It was such a nice feeling that I was thanked because of that.

I am so sorry to hear about your experience in your school days. Yiu were still lucky that you didn't get a phobia or a trauma after that situation because if it happened on me I am not sure if I will still go back to school. What he did was just too much. I think he was too tired and just irritated when he was discussing and just found out that you were not listening to him. It is not easy to handle children of different levels, it really needs patience and devotion. It is in my mind that I should be very careful in handling the kids and always put in my mind that I am here to let them learn and not hurt them. Besides from that I don't have any right to hurt them. Yes there are times I am so irritated with my students but I am holding my temper as much as I can as I don't want to end up in the court being filed a case of the student's parents. Same as what happened to a public school teacher, it was I think 2 days before her retirement that she hit the student and it was being filed to the division. As a result, instead of receiving the pension which she was working for how many years she didn't get anything. A lesson for the teachers.

Yes, and you are right that I came out without any damage having been done to me. I was a survivor!

Yes, I think all of us who have been teachers have been there feeling so angry at some of the kids, but you are right about needing to hold the temper, as you and I both know it is not fun to be on the receiving end of a teacher's wrath, and especially when it is really not deserved, but a teacher is taking out his/her frustrations. A teacher has a lot of power; power to hurt or power to help. There was a high school principal here just last year who slapped a student hard in the face just days before his retirement. He got his picture in the newspaper with a write up about possible criminal charges being filed. Our daughter laughed, even though it was not funny, because the picture they put in the newspaper was a picture of him with a big smile on his face. Our daughter said that it looked like he was really happy about that!

Yes, you saved a life, and that is wonderful beyond words to describe!!!!

[crisipicada]

Be a good example and motivate people. Be positive that others can improve himself/herself. In that way you can bring out the best in people

[quiteman]

to bring out the best in people, you first must see the image of God in them. So much so that human beings are the most holiness object we encounter in our daily lives. It is easy to conpartmenalize people into sub-groups: " he is only the cleaning man" " she is only a person from a poor place". When we see people as being truly human and treat them as truly human, can we begin to bring the best out in them. I am upset when I hear that we are merely victims of our upbring, insticts or neuro-biological make up. That is simply untrue and leads to thinking of persons "as less than" or " merely as". To be human is to know there is a life of meaning and we are capable of overcoming our biological,. insticts and upbring. We have free will and choice.

Even the most evil of people can do god, if they choose too.

[quiteman]

to bring out the best in people, you first must see the image of God in them. So much so that human beings are the most holiness object we encounter in our daily lives. It is easy to conpartmenalize people into sub-groups: " he is only the cleaning man" " she is only a person from a poor place". When we see people as being truly human and treat them as truly human, can we begin to bring the best out in them. I am upset when I hear that we are merely victims of our upbring, insticts or neuro-biological make up. That is simply untrue and leads to thinking of persons "as less than" or " merely as". To be human is to know there is a life of meaning and we are capable of overcoming our biological,. insticts and upbring. We have free will and choice.

Even the most evil of people can do god, if they choose too.

[Edwin]

Years ago I used to watch a lot of television. This perhaps should be in the jokes posting section. There is this lady at the service desk in the airport. A customer walks up, and she asks him if he has a problem, then she tells him, "I will give you a problem," and she is really mean and grouchy. That is not the best way to bring out the best in people. What it was, was an advertisement for a airlines company, and the ad is telling people that they have better customer service and make people happier and more satisfied than their competition!

[crisipicada]

You can help someone or tear her down. This is a true saying.

To motivate someone will help her or him to do what she wanted to accomplish things. When you give positive things, it will help her to go on and make the best as she can.

To be with positive people will influence you to think positive also. it is contagious so with the negative people. THerefore, be a good motivator to someone and you can help them bring out the best in them

[Edwin]

This is very true, Crisi! You can either build someone up, or you can tear then down, depending on your actions and your words. We all need encouragement at times, and that is very nice to find someone who will encourage us. David, the Psamist encouraged himself in the Lord, when there was no one else to encourage him. Some times we have to encourage ourselves, and that is difficult, but we look to the Lord to help us!