how to keep the love alive?

[edeline]

Do the usual things that you have done when you were still bf/gf relationship. Make sure that you always have time for each other and don't forget to say i love you to your partner. Love will always stay as long as you keep in touch and patch up misunderstanding. Pride will always cause separation. Keep a humble heart and accept differences.

I agree with that, do the usual things which both of you were doing when you were still bf/gf relationship. Let love not fade even when you tie the know. There are so many instances that the relationship are fine for few years but later, gets fade. I am hoping that it will not happen to us. Well, I think it will not happen as long as the two of you are both willing to exert effort in continuing the love which is being planted.

yes, that is very true that pride is the common cause of separation because nobody will try to accept that he/she is the one has done something wrong. Times comes when both of you are on the peak of anger and seems that you really feel you are right and you want that to be respected. There is a saying that goes, "don't strike/hurt while the iron is hot" if I am not mistaken. If one is the peak of anger try to be humble and as soon as he/she will be okay, that will be the time that you can also express you side. It will not work on when the two are angry because nobody will dare to listen. Humility will really help.

[edeline]

i remember in my last pinoy boyfriend...we are on for 2 years and half...but still we didnt last...at first i feel that he really love me and i to him too...but when time goes by i notice that we are not really meant for each other coz we have different principles in life...to make the story short...even though i love him..i am the one who let him go, i set him free..because i have noticed that i am not one who made the effort for our relationship...and then after 6 months since we are off i heard that he is married already...

so in our situation i have learned that if we do anything or everything to make the love alive..but if your partner didnt participate or you are just the one who is doing the effort your relationship will be dead...

In entering a relationships, both of you will take time to each other...talk and share everything...

I salute to people who have a long relationship but I feel sorry when you and him ended up. Anyway, that is life. I know that you set him free but you were also hurt at the same time. At least, you found it earlier that the two of you were not really meant for each other.

Love is not easy. My guy told me before that love is a rocky road and that is true. I think it will take years to adjust totally and be used to it. EFFORT is a must for a relationship to work on. There are so many things to be considered to let the relationship work on. Sometimes, we also need to assess ourself and the partner. Asking if he/she is happy as happy as you are.

Love work in both ways and it is a mutualism relationship which is a give and take process. Both need to cooperate to make it work. If it happens that one is cooperating and the other is not then that is a not an ideal love, that is begging of love. according to my co teacher, if you love someone make sure that you are not just the one loving but also him/her because if that is the case you are begging for his/her love and that begging of love will never work on.

[edeline]

stay honest to each other and go out for a romantic date! or read his/her past letters for you!

That is one of the necessties in a relationship, honesty. Being true is very important for love to continously bloom. It
Girls are really fun of keeping messages and letters of ger guy. That is a very nice feeling when a girl reads and reads again the letter or messages of a guy whol loves her dearly. That is what I am doing when I miss mmy special someone.I go to yahoomail and retrieving the messages he had sent me. Sooner, I will just find myself funny because I will not notice that I am
already smiling because of the messages he sent me. Thinking and feeling so much in love.hehe

[brat4300]

A couple books to help put everything in perspective:

For Women Only: What You Need to Know about the Inner Lives of Men

For Men Only: A Straightforward Guide to the Inner Lives of Women

I am slowly reading the for men only book and so far it has been pretty good and given some insights to relationships in general.... Even taught me a thing or 2 about myself.

Another great book that I think everyone should give a look at is The Five Love Languages. It is a book that talks about the way people feel loved and can help you identify how you feel loved by others. There are a few follow on books from this one but this is a good start.

[edeline]

A couple books to help put everything in perspective:

For Women Only: What You Need to Know about the Inner Lives of Men

For Men Only: A Straightforward Guide to the Inner Lives of Women

I am slowly reading the for men only book and so far it has been pretty good and given some insights to relationships in general.... Even taught me a thing or 2 about myself.

Another great book that I think everyone should give a look at is The Five Love Languages. It is a book that talks about the way people feel loved and can help you identify how you feel loved by others. There are a few follow on books from this one but this is a good start.

The book titles sound interesting..Thanks for sharing those titles..
I think those book will really help you in looking for a special someone. Good luck to your search.

[crisipicada]

You will really know how to keep the love alive. In the very first place, make your love one as your inspiration for your daily life. It is a feeling of being one as you live on earth. Your heart will always long for him and you will really know that love is always alive and kicking

By the way, you must know the psychology of love, too. I mean you must know your partner's attitude and how to treat him as what he wanted to and vice versa. One thing is to be honest and talk about how you feel and express to him or her your deep emotion. If you are sad, tell him or her and ask him or her how can you help him/her.

As the song says, "I need inspiration not just another negotiation." Treat your partner how he will treat you in return. Always say good thing to him and tell him how much you are waiting for him to spend life together if the case you are farm from each other. Solve problems as soon as possible if there is any, and make sure you will be honest to each other from then on. Give him your full attention and most of all do not put any reservation to your love to him and vice versa.

Talk to each other what will your future be. Be honest to each other and do what you are really saying. Do not make him disappointed, and also guys, you must reciprocate the love of the woman to you. Do not give her heartache too.

[Edwin]

No one needs heart aches!

[lessa120]

i love to love

[crisipicada]

No one needs heart aches!

Yes, you are right but we cannot deny the fact that we will feel heartache in life.

[edeline]

All things or situations are not perfect that is why when we are in a relationsip we are doing our best yet we are still hurt and that is unavoidable. Those times will really come any moment in our lives. We will not expect it to happen and better be ready. Learn from those people who have the experience already.

There is no single serious person who is not hurt in terms of love. Once you are serious, you will be hurt any moment because that affects you.