Testing A Potential Mate

[jadegil6]

What Things Can You Do To Test The Honesty Of Your Potential Mate?

[longhorn1]

waterboarding? If it's good enough for the CIA, then it will work for me. hehehe just joking! I think that time is one's greatest allie. The longer you know someone, the better you get to know them. Then you may see some inconsistencies in the things they tell you, and you may come to realize that they are not 100% honest with you. So I say it is the test of time that can make or break a relationship.

[cutegen]

for me i will apply the tradition of a filipina to be a pakipot (hard to get) by that means you can measure if he really loves you..if he gets tired and will find another because of that... then he really not in love with me...

[maynayz]

Pakipot is a good measure of a man but making him chase a woman endlessly, even after marriage or established relationship at least, is like making the dog chase a ball that was not thrown. Because the dog wants that ball and is willing to play with it and the one who should be throwing it, there is a tendency for the thrower to overdo the fake throws and eventually, the dog will just get it in it's mind that the thrower is not going to throw the ball but instead fake it just to get a laugh or fulfill them self.

Well men are much the same. I don't want anything very easy. I expect a challenge and I expect it to be hard to obtain. But...that said, I expect that the person I am trying to win over is also not playing games with me and leading me on which is what too much pakipot can be interpreted. There must always be some fulfillment to his overtures and the assume he will keep playing the "hard to get" game she is tossing to him indefinitely, established or not, is incorrect. She must also realize that it isn't all about her and that she must also invest in the relationship. The chase is up to the man indeed. If she is receptive she must show it at some point or it will be seen as a game. Women play games a lot like this. Men know it and lose interest fast which means they leave and sometimes a really good relationship is never started for overzealous pakipot playing. This isn't to say all who play hard to get in their desire to measure the sincerity of the man loses. On the contrary many are greatful for the difficulty in obtaining his love. It makes it all worth it. But the universal balance for playing hard to get is to show it is working. To continue to play the game and be chased with no indication or incentive that it is working makes it seem she is just a game player and isn't serious. Again, good relationships can fail to ever start or finish on account of pakipot going wrong or too much or unbalanced.

My two cents from a man who loves, dated and is engaged to a Filipina.

[crisipicada]

What Things Can You Do To Test The Honesty Of Your Potential Mate?

I had a long time friend since college. I was attracted to him so he was. Although we never had a romatic relationship, but we keep on communicating through text. Sad to say that when he finished study at University of the Philippines Los Banos, i heard he got married. Then we really not mean for each other. Another man was my classmate in college. He was so smart and intelligent and most of all god fearing. At that time, i am not ready to have a relationship and so he find another woman. It is okay for me because the right one has not yet come along. Another was a 57 years old guy. He is attracted to me but i choose to let him go because we have different culture and he don't respect mine. Now, i can see how much important respect in a relationship. I am still hopeful to find the right one.It takes time to know the real person and although we had a conflict with each other i know we had in common, Christ is the center of our relationship.

[chaychay644]

What Things Can You Do To Test The Honesty Of Your Potential Mate?

Only one thing, RESPECT..coz if he does, it means that he is sincere with his intentions..

[crisipicada]

What Things Can You Do To Test The Honesty Of Your Potential Mate?

Only one thing, RESPECT..coz if he does, it means that he is sincere with his intentions..

alright, it may sum up this way: Without respect, relationship wont grow.

[purex]

Long term observation is one of the best thing to test a potential mate

[purex]

What Things Can You Do To Test The Honesty Of Your Potential Mate?

Time will tell how honest your mate would be.

[crisipicada]

If both guy and gal are together, there is a possibility that both will be untrue to each other. Being friend makes one another true and not hypocrite because no feeling is involve, but then as much as relationship grows, that is a great story.