Coping up with sad goodbyes

[myjanuarypink]

As Nicolas Charles Sparks, aptly says, "The reason it hurts so much to separate is because our souls are connected.". Maybe they always have and will be. Maybe we've lived a thousand lives before this one and in each of them we've found each other. And maybe each time, we've been forced apart for the same reasons. That means that this goodbye is both goodbye for the past ten thousand years and a prelude to what will come.

That's because the heart so much refuses to let go, and that's what makes it so much harder to let go. The long days of absence of a loved one simply makes the heart squeezes in pain and the tears to fall uncontrollably.

Christian is a four year old toddler who is a neighbour and we are the best of friends. But when Christian's mum has spoken to me that I should stop visiting and playing with him, heaven and earth fell on me. Like someone being sandwiched or buried alive in the Haiti's intensity 7 rubbles. I couldnt fathom the reason why as we get along very well. We would practically spent hours talking and playing. Being a single person as I am and my nephews are all grown ups, a toddler is what misses the emptiness in my life at the moment. A toddler completes my hollowed life. Soon realized that Emily is becoming insecure.

Last night was a wake up call for me, when I told Christian that I'll be bringing my birthday cake and birthday noodles plus chicken joy,. he immediately retorted. NO, you dont have to do that. I will throw away all the foods that youll be bringing!!! His grandparents were there and asked him, who told him to do that. He said his mum...Why on earth that his mum was saying that and even teaching the four year child such an unbecoming behaviour? I just told him that foods are grace from God and you shouldnt throw them away. Our Dear Lord will get disappointed and angry. Many are hungary and unable to eat...If you can just throw them inside your tummy, then its better...I told him, well, i think that I shouldnt come here anymore...and walked away...

Ive realized that the seeds of genuine friendship has started rotting and wasted. I couldnt do anything as his mum is trying to ruin our friendship and even my credibility as a human being...

I am feeling depressed and despairing at the looming loneliness or empty part of my life that lies ahead. Depression is actually a way of accepting reality, so then I can move forward.

Even though I can keep in touch and see him from a distance, the intensity of friendship will not be sustainable: being in avoidance, or they (and me hopefully) experiencing new horizons and things.

I will Just remember that I am a witness to a part of our lives and so I will be special, in some way, with each other.

I still dont know if i will have some closure… and I'll mark this new chapter in my life.That with all the things that I am going through, having a farewell that is a special goodbye . Even if it's just a last goodbye..

I'll take the time also to do new things to help myself move on from a sad goodbye , and develop relationships with other people. New friendships take time so start building them now - but I wont neglect nor forget that one special person that I am leaving.

It’s good to challenge myself to find more friends because in any good relationship, I can find myself getting lazy with meeting new people, because I don’t ‘need’ them.

Everyone enriches our own lives with more experiences both the people leaving and those staying behind.

[Tigger82d]

I believe God has a plan for each one of us, whether it's use us once to hold a door open for some stranger or a life long friendship. Be happy with what God has given you for each day is a blessing, God owes us nothing, we owe him. When you're feeling down try counting your blessings, I promise you will have plenty.

[red]

First let me comment....sad goodbyes is only sad when you are not ready to let go...or you are hurting. But if the goodbyes can give you peace of mind then it wouldnt be sad at all.

The only thing to cope up with sad goodbyes is learn to accept it. Once there's acceptance you will be OK.

[crisipicada]

First let me comment....sad goodbyes is only sad when you are not ready to let go...or you are hurting. But if the goodbyes can give you peace of mind then it wouldnt be sad at all.

The only thing to cope up with sad goodbyes is learn to accept it. Once there's acceptance you will be OK.

Yes, it is. Acceptance let to freedom. I have learned that until you keep on deny the things that had happen to you, i/you keep on hurting myself/yourself. Put everything in God's hand and God will give inner peace.

[Edwin]

I think the saddest goodbye ever for me was when I told my dad goodbye and hugged him before he went to Texas for heart surgery. I cried when I told him goodbye, and that was in 1972 and he was almost exactly the age I am now. He called and talked to all of us from Texas like he was coming back after surgery, but he wrote my mom a letter and told her that he was going to be with the Lord, and he did. He quoted the apostle Paul saying that he had fought a good fight, he had finished his course, and there was a crown of righteousness for him. A famous heart surgeon operated on him, Dr. Debeaky and I think his partner was Leavy or something like that. They worked for hours trying to get his heart started, but it was his time to go, and he has been with the Lord now for many years.

[purex]

Wow, that's amazing story. When my father was in the hospital before his operation, every morning and bed time i sing a christian song for him and sometimes his tears are flowing to his cheeks. I miss my father so much. He love me to sing for him and also wants me to stay at his side always. I am his favorite daughter and i feel that. In fact my graduation photo was in his pocket. He always ask me to pray for him when it is night time when he suffer a lot from cancer. I believe that He is in heaven now also.

[Edwin]

Wow, that's amazing story. When my father was in the hospital before his operation, every morning and bed time i sing a christian song for him and sometimes his tears are flowing to his cheeks. I miss my father so much. He love me to sing for him and also wants me to stay at his side always. I am his favorite daughter and i feel that. In fact my graduation photo was in his pocket. He always ask me to pray for him when it is night time when he suffer a lot from cancer. I believe that He is in heaven now also.

That is wonderful purex, and that is a great comfort that we have in the Lord.

[crisipicada]

Everyone must decide right now to accept the Lord Jesus Christ as their personal Saviour and Lord.
He alone can save us from the penalty of sin - death (spiritually).
Remember that God's standard is perfection and no one is perfect, so Christ died for our sin
because He alone is perfect. Our righteousness in the sight of God is like a dirty rug
so we are fall short of the glory of God.Having a relationship with God is the greatest decision you can make right now.
Pray, repent and accept with all your heart to save you (also me) for our sins. Relationship with Him is personal.

[Edwin]

That is very important crisi! None of of has any bargaining power with God. We have not done enough to save us. It is only His mercy and grace. We come and throw ourselves at the foot of the cross. It is because Jesus died for us, and we accept his sacrifice for our sins that we are declared righteous before God. It is not what we have done, but what God/Jesus has done for us. Not any of us has done anything that is too bad for God to forgive. He is standing at the door knocking asking us to let Him in. Today is the day of salvation. Today is the day we must give our whole heart and life to Him. Today is the day we need to let God do what He want to with us. His yoke is easy and His burden is light.

[purex]

God loves us so much and give His only begotten son Jesus Christ. He died on the cross to pay our sins. He redeemed us from the penalty of sin - death. Death here refers to spiritual death, where we are separated from the love of God because of sins. Salvation is free - it is a free gift Ephesians 2:8-9. The only thing that we will do is to accept that we are not capable of saving ourselves. We need Christ. It is finish! Christ paid our sins. Now let us accept His gift of Salvation through faith. Let us invite Him to come into our hearts and He will live in our hearts. He promise no one can pluck it our from the love of God since we became His sons and daughters. He gave us assurance of salvation