If attracted to someone,do U dive into romantic relationshp?

[wantingmore]

If you are attracted with someone, do you dive in into relationship with her/her? Let's say she is pretty or handsome, she got the smile, and you really admire her, do you easily dive into romantic relationship, telling her of your feeling, going out for date, riding in a car? If I wont do it, I might miss my future with her?

[red]

Back when i was searching. Appearance maybe important when i was young. But when i reached late 20s i took alot of consideration. I made sure he can get along with me, faith or belief in God, mostly his wallet, can he survive to raise family and provide the needs? Hmmm if all those qualities present then i made sure there is a commitment before being romantic.

[Edwin]

I can't remember who said it, but someone said, "why do that waste youth on the young?" What they meant was that the young don't always made good choice, yet they have the energy to live and get things done. If wisdom and youth could be mixed together that would be a great combination. There is also a saying, and I don't remember where I heard it either, "there is no fool, like an old fool." What that means is that older people can often do very foolish things, and they don't always apply their wisdom.

[crisipicada]

I am the type of person wherein if I am attracted to someone, I would rather share to my friends that I am like someone. I am not the type of person who is showy and I would approach that person that I like him or I am attracted to him.

I am always thinking and being careful with what I say when it comes to involving emotion like attracted to him or like him, I learned it for a long time. Why?? Because I knew it that our hearts lie. It cannot be trusted! It is full of deceit, and it is full of lies. Have you noticed that sometimes, when you are attracted to that person, later on you realized that you are not? Or have you come into the situation wherein, you thought you are so full inlove but later on, you realized that you do not love him or her anymore? I knew it, many stories I have heard that.

Now, I would like to explain in this situation so that you all will understand. When going to the barrio, there few cars going there, infact most of the transportation there is motorcycle. As long as the road is clear and not a lot of bumps, the motorcycle can go fast and without destruction when you are riding alone.

What if when you are in a deserted and busy road? And that you have your relative with you and with other friends and the person you are attracted most? And then there are lots of cars behind you, beside you and in your rare. And most of the time, police are always on highways always doing patrol 24 hours a day. Of course you have to slow down, you must not over speeding, and most of all , you must drive carefully, right?

What I am trying to say is that, at that first scenario or situation, you are just alone riding a motorcycle or car, while on the second scenario, you are surrounded with people and surrounded with relationship with other people. Of course when you drive the car carelessly, you will put the life of people around you in danger, right? Or you would be responsible to the lives of motorists around you too, and the worst thing is , the policeman will caution you and be reminded with traffic rules, or maybe you will be fined with certain amount of driving carelessly, right? You must drive slowly.

This is what the principle in relationships too. Many of men or women, would focus in themselves only. They would ask, or in their mind, Will this person like me? Would he or she would be a good husband or wife for me? Many of us would run into a relationship too quickly and probably run over people along the way, and never realized that your actions affects others. What I am trying to say is that, when you are attracted to someone, remember, and put in your mind, that you are involved in three kinds of relationships.

1. Your relationship with that person you are interested in
2. Your relationship with the person around you – includes family and friends
3. Most of all your relationship with God.
And all of these, you have responsibility toward each of them.

[crisipicada]

Knowing God's view point in every decision that you and I will make and responding to that view point on the basis of the scripture is the greatest gift you can possibly have. Godly wisdom is your greatest possession.

[Edwin]

That is a good analogy between the motorcylce traffic and relationships, Crisi! Carelessness causes lots of damage to lots of people. It is important to follow the rules for safety, and not hurt other people! Yes, follow God's leading and direction and everyone will be a lot better off!

[crisipicada]

That is a good analogy between the motorcylce traffic and relationships, Crisi! Carelessness causes lots of damage to lots of people. It is important to follow the rules for safety, and not hurt other people! Yes, follow God's leading and direction and everyone will be a lot better off!

My future brother in law says, it would be better to marry someone who is godly and wont beat his wife than to marry someone who is stable in his job, or well of, and do not treat his wife good.

I always consider the spirit of the person when I talk about relationship. Let your hearts close each other and do not engage or talk about lust because it will spoil your relationship. Choosing to have a good and godly relationship is a direction. It needs to be taking cared and be cautious about the things that will lead to bad direction. One thing to do is to be guided by the word of God.

[Edwin]

God's word for our direction is of utmost importance! I agree with your future brother in law that it is more important to marry somone who is godly than to marry someone with a stable job and is well off. With the godly person you will get treated right. There is a song, "Little is Much When God is in it," and that is true. It is better to have a little and have God, than to have a lot and not have God.

[m&m]

I must admit, I do not dive directly if I know someone. Let us say, I like him or have warm feelings for someone, I just be very careful not to stir up emotion because I do not want to hurt feelings.

If I like someone, I try to pray more and to refrain talking a lot. Some people do the opposite. BEcause they like someone, they always have time to talk. That is not bad. But if that is your priority and do not give attention to what is important, let us say, you got distracted what is important to do, then that is not good.

If the person give up to you then he or she wont talk to you anymore for a long time, there is a reason behind that. But do not give conclusion that you are not really meant for each other. My point is that, do not rush into abrupt decision but give time to think, evaluate feelings and your priorities.

Sounds good to hear but hard to do sometimes.

[m&m]

Maybe if I am carried away with my feelings and not using my brain, I guess, my life is like a mess. hehe