Is it wrong?

[frosty]

I reread the OP. "wanting" that is not wrong... but forcing it is. The term "barefoot and pregnant' comes to mind.
Note: the OP does not mention children... Just a household.

[Tigger82d]

My ex wanted to go back to work after our daughter was born, her reason was that she might loose her friends at work. By the time my son was born I had gotten a night job so I could raise the kids instead of someone else. I done that until my son started kindergarten. I averaged 4-5 hours sleep each day working 8 hours a night and being with the kids for 10 hours a day by myself. She only had the kids for up to 2 hours a day before putting them to bed at night. We never needed the money, she just wanted it. And now she can't understand why our kids want to be with me instead of her.

[Tigger82d]

somebody said, "You will be a devoted wife and a fantastic wife"! So now i want to ask guys out there what makes a woman fantastic?

Everyone will have thier own opinion on this question. To me a woman that will take care of the household (kids, house, bills, ect) while I am out working is fantastic. She must also have alot of love for me, the children, and the whole family. She must be drug and alcohol free and a non smoker. The list could go on and on but it all revolves around putting the family first. Everything listed here feels like I'm listing on a dating site, lol.

[Edwin]

a : based on fantasy : not real b : conceived or seemingly conceived by unrestrained fancy c : so extreme as to challenge belief : unbelievable; ...
merriam-webster.com/dictionary/fantastic - Cached

A fantastic wife is a fantasy wife. She is concieved by fancy. She challenges belief and is unbelieveable. Actually we use a lot of words without realizing their correct meaning. Wonderful is full of wonder. Beautiful is full of beauty. Fantastic is fantacy. Actually I think a fantastic wife is a wonderful wife in many or all ways regardless of what word actually means. Of course part of the problem with LDRs especially before meeting the person is that the relationship may be only a fantacy. We dream in our minds what we want that person to be like, and we create them according to that percieved image. We have not fallen in love with the real person, but we have fallen in love with a figment of our own imagination according to what we would like that person to be. That is why it is very important to take time to get to know the person, and to meet them for sure before thinking we are in love with them. Otherwise one or the other can be very disappointed. It is important I think to be the real person. Let people know who you are and what you are, then if they fall in love with you they will be falling in love with the real you. Being genuine is very important. That means being the person you show other people and not pretending to be something you are not.

[red]

Is it wrong to want a wife that does not work outside the home, who stays home and manages the household. I am just curious. This is one of the MAJOR disagreements that I had with my first, and only, wife. And just to clarify, money was not an issue, she didn't need to work.
Thanks to anyone who takes the time to add their thoughts to this.

Wow, I like that. Actually, there's nothing wrong with what you desire. I been married for years now and I been enjoying just staying home taking care of household, budgeting, taking care of kids and husband. It's nice. We have small business to get busy at times. Really it's nice life..esp if you dont have to worry about money....man, i can just go out enjoy with my family do some shopping... hehehehe

[Edwin]

Is it wrong to want a wife that does not work outside the home, who stays home and manages the household. I am just curious. This is one of the MAJOR disagreements that I had with my first, and only, wife. And just to clarify, money was not an issue, she didn't need to work.
Thanks to anyone who takes the time to add their thoughts to this.

Wow, I like that. Actually, there's nothing wrong with what you desire. I been married for years now and I been enjoying just staying home taking care of household, budgeting, taking care of kids and husband. It's nice. We have small business to get busy at times. Really it's nice life..esp if you dont have to worry about money....man, i can just go out enjoy with my family do some shopping... hehehehe

Red, what you are doing is the best if it is possible. If both people need to work then they can enjoy the contributions they are making. If one can stay home and take care of things there, giving more attention to the children then that is great and wonderful! One of our twins stays home and takes care of her family. That is her husband's wish. She has a lot of barn chores to do also. She has one 16 year old still at home and two children grown and gone. The other twin is working at school to help pay for a double car garage that she and her husband wanted. She is working with special needs children and what she does is very demanding. They have one son that is attending Hillsong in Australia, and one daughter who is in the 12th grade.

[red]

It is wrong to force your partner not to work. Some women insist on working just so they can have money out of their own hardwork. Special acknowledgment to Sir Edwin for the compliment.

[Edwin]

It is wrong to force your partner not to work. Some women insist on working just so they can have money out of their own hardwork. Special acknowledgment to Sir Edwin for the compliment.

Thanks, Red!

[m&m]

Some marriages end up because they are not committed at all. What if the wife don't work and only the husband is working for the family? Will you guys change your attitude and feelings for the woman? Some marriages change as what i have known, some husband maltreat their partner because of inferiority complex - some wife or woman feel that way. According to interviews, as much as the wife can afford to make a living she wanted to separate from her husband because of many instances treated her so badly and inflict emotional trauma. So guys, what can you say about this issue?

[Chas]

So guys, what can you say about this issue?

Not just guys, but girls too. You get the full range of issues and actions from both parties. You get women mistreating their husbands including violence and mental trauma. There is no simple answer, all society can do is try to provide methods to identify and support those abused of whatever gender or age.

Whilst violence and abuse can never be condoned, I do wonder if it is the price we pay for individually being so different and were we more alike would life be boring and mundane.