What is/was your biggest Online Dating Mistake?

[eStu]

The biggest mistake I ever had on online dating was falling in love online. Being in love with the person you meet personally is the right thing to experience rather than fallin in love with the person you know online and never meet personally. Falling in love online is crazy.

Yes i fall innlove twice but it did not work because they are chatting and communicating other women and send email the same thing. They call me different name as we chatted and it makes my heart very heavy...

I agree that it's a good idea to try very hard to reserve 'love' for those you know well. It's great to be passionate in life but for your own good try to reserve your feelings until you've met someone (and please take precautions when doing that) and know for sure that distance won't stay a barrier. I can understand the disappointment of being called the wrong name while chatting to someone, but looking at it another way, thank God for exposing what that guy was like to you, it means you got to see him for what he was.

I'm sure there are lots of good people online and it's a valid forum for connecting with people but caution and precautions are necessary. If the only contact you have with someone is via the internet... you're able to see a lot of their words but next to none their actions... and that's not a good formula for being certain about their character.

...i never learned. I hope i learn and stop doing stupid thing. I never listen to my Pastor. If only listen then i save a lot of hurt feelings and done great thing for the Lord. I am still hoping though it hurts. I am so stupid that what i have heard and listen believe what people say so now i am so disappointed and hurt and it really makes my life miscerable. I always pray for God's healing.

Cmon Crisi... you'll be ok, don't be too hard on yourself. If your error was to be too willing to love, too willing to believe someone... I can't see that type of error as being a bad comment on your own character. These tough lessons in life can make you stronger. Ask the Almighty for strength to persevere and hopefully sooner rather than later the right guy will come along to make the "Hugs for health" thread a reality in your life.

[crisipicada]

Anger and resentment is hard to deal with. Anger to yourself, to people and to all. It is all by God's grace we can move on and forgive the past. Thought it is hard to forget and sometimes we don't forget but i believe love can be replaced in our hearts.

[Edwin]

Anger and resentment is hard to deal with. Anger to yourself, to people and to all. It is all by God's grace we can move on and forgive the past. Thought it is hard to forget and sometimes we don't forget but i believe love can be replaced in our hearts.

You are right, Crisi! Carol said to me that she has worked hard not to hold resentment to people that she felt has done her wrong. I will have to admit that I have a hard time with this, and that is the reason she said that to me. She tells me that I can remember every time someone has done me wrong, and I can pull it out of my memory and talk about it, and she is right, and I need God to help me with that, so that I will not carry bitterness and resentment over past wrongs that people have done to me. I come by it honestly as my mother's brother was that way, and I take after him in many ways. His mother said that he was her Indian, as he favored his Indian side of the family, and I am like him in many ways, but I have to get rid of the bitter resentful feelings over things that have been done to me in the past. The Bible teaches us that they will destroy us, and that other people will be damaged by them as well, just from the way we carry those hurts around with us. Carol tells me I will be much happier if I get rid of them, and she is right. But it takes the help of the Lord to get rid of them, because it is not easy.

[RealDeal]

Well so far I cant think of a single thing I would change,but Im a little new to this. I hope to keep it this way as well

[crisipicada]

Love hurts, as the song goes. But along the way your are getting mature. But the best thing is to learn wisdom and learn from other experience it will save a lot of energy and hurt in life. That is wisdom.

[chaychay644]

Love hurts, as the song goes. But along the way your are getting mature. But the best thing is to learn wisdom and learn from other experience it will save a lot of energy and hurt in life. That is wisdom.

the sad part of falling in love with the wrong person is that you've emotionally connected and when the relationship don't work, it hurts..but the positive thing on that is we learned from our experience and the next time were in the same situation we already know how to protect ourselves and be cautious about it..

[edeline]

The biggest online dating mistake was when I loved a man through online and then easily gave up on him when I thought that it would be very impossible for us to be together knowing that she is also so so in love with a girl. I didn't waited for time that maybe he will fall on me or whatsoever because I didn't want to hope so much. I felt hopeless and then there came a man who was interested in me. At first, I really didn't love him but as time goes by I loved him so much though I haven't met him in person yet. I got affected and being a martyr just to have him but it ended up breaking with the 2nd one and had a second love with the original person whom my heart was really beating for. It is said that love is sweeter the second time around.

[purex]

There are relationships that long last for more than 8 years. Some got into a relationship since college. After 8 years they ended up because they are not meant for each other. Also because of different priorities in life. I am afraid of the word "falling in love" because someday you will say that "you fall out inlove". Sometimes what you feel is just an infatuation and you will never know that you are just deceive by your heart and feelings. Ask yourself, "Why do i fall in love with this person?" Or why i learn to love this person? What is in your heart that chose you to love him/her? Are you committed to love him/her because you choose to? What if you harships and problems come? Will you stick to her/him?

Okay, dating online is one way to find a future partner in life. Of course it is a blessing that you can find a loving and supportive husband/wife. A partner whom you can confide and have a listining heart. Not only that, a partner who has a heart to help her partner give a life and make it easier. I must admit, i have fears, fears of being disappointed, fear of being neglected, fear of being taken for granted, fear of being unloved. Life is not easy for filipina. In other words, i am praying a man who will spend me a life time when God grant that He will give me partner in His time. I am thankful that i am getting better and that i can work hard and really intend to help my partner to make a living. I know that life is difficult and will always be and i am working on my health to be better. So that God will allow me to have a partner in life. For life is for better and for worst.

[Edwin]

We have a saying, "nothing ventured, nothing gained," and I think that is true here. There are always risks to be taken, but as people seek God's guidance the risks are less I believe. A person has the choice of doing something or doing nothing. I think going ahead and seeking the Lord in it is good. We can worry about what bad might happen until we don't allow anything good to happen. The guy is worrying about whether the young lady is scamming him for money, and cares nothing about him, or that maybe she is using him as a ticket to get to a Western country to pursue actions of getting her own secret love into the country after dumping him. The lady is worried about getting someone who does not have pure motives, but just wants to use the young lady for his own purposes then dump her. She can be worried about the lack of sincerely, and that he might be an entirely different person from what he pretends to be. She might be worred about how she will be treated once she is in another country. If I were looking for myself which I am not now, I could be scared to death because of the risks, but with God's guidance it should be better. Then a person can be careful, take the precautions, and trust in God. Yes, some of them are scammers, some are not what they appear to be, but most of them, and especially here are genuine.

[crisipicada]

well, i thought all what they are saying online are true but it not. i thought all are true in the future but it did not happen, i do not know. I will give everything to the Lord. so much heartache online.