red flags

[Edwin]

Where exactly did you go in Negros Oriental to visit your girl friend? I spent most of 2 weeks in Negros Oriental not far from Dumaguete, near Amlan and Tanjay City. We went to all those places a number of times. That was October 18th through the 29th. I was with people from near where I live here in Washington, visiting with family members who live in that area as well as Manila. So that was their home country, and they hung out with us the entire time, taking us around various places.

[crisipicada]

Thank you for knowing 'red flags" means.

[Edwin]

Thank you for knowing 'red flags" means.

Red flags are important, and if we pay attention to them they can save us a lot of heart ache.

[crisipicada]

Now i know what it means but i dont mind that.

[Edwin]

My first experience with the term "red flags" was in connection with the IRS, the individual incometax returns that all of us have to submit to the government, beginning early in February or whenever we get our W2s, or our wage slips telling how much we earned for the year, and other forms giving basically the same information, like reporting the amount of money one collected from unemployment compensation, or social security, and others that I have forgotten, or that I am not aware of.

A red flag for the IRS is if someones income reporting suddenly drops without any good reason. A large change in any kind of reporting information without good reason. Say a person suddendly has large expendatures and deductions after not having them the year before. A red flag is basically any change that makes the IRS suspicious of the honestly of a person's reporting on the individual income tax return.

An example of this is a minister friend of mine from the Assembly of God church. He gave so much to missions that it made the IRS suspicious of his honestly, so they called him in for an audit of his tax return. He really did give that large amount to missions, but the IRS could not believe that anyone would give as much to missions as he did. He didn't get into trouble as he was honest, but it just caused him a lot of trouble to have to meet with them and furnish proof that he had given that amount. His reporting of his missions giving was a red flag to the IRS, so any time they get a red flag a person is apt to get audited by the IRS.

Red flags in connection with what we are talking about here would be any action/actions of an individual that would be suspicious. For instance I have heard of bfs/gfs calling each other, one calling the other to find out if that person was where they were supposed to be. In other words if the guy from USA called his girlfriend in the middle of her night when she was supposed to be sleeping and she was not at home, it might be a red flag telling him that she might not be where she was supposed to be. In the case of the above person posting he felt that the way this young lady treated him was a red flag telling him that there might be something not quite right going on. She might have another boyfriend on the side, or she might just not like him, or there might be something even worse going on.

She is not telling him exactly how she feels, so he is coming to his own conclusions which may or may not be correct. But he feels like he has seen enough indications that she is not what she should be, especially to him, that it will not work for him. She will not furnish the document saying that she is not married. He feels that is a red flag. When she doesn not say "I love you" first he sees that as a red flag. He sees her snapping at him in an unfriendly manner as being a red flag. He feels that her cold treatment of him is a red flag. Because of those things he makes other assumptions about her that may not be true. She may just not like him, and is hesitant to tell him that. Then he said that she messed with him facebook, changing the password on him. She also hacked into his e-mail. Those actions indicate that she still has feelings for him, or she is really angry with him, so who knows. She is not telling him, and he is coming to his own conclusions which may or may not be true, and she may just have a problem with him, and not really have problems herself. I don't know the answer. In any case he has had a bad experience, and she is not very happy either.

[crisipicada]

There are filipina who is not totally show her love to a man unless she knows that her love will be reciprocated or be back up in return.

At first it is important to know your woman or man. Well, it takes time to know each other. But you will know the man or woman also when you have peace in your heart that he or she is the one.

Of course there will be problems or disagreements along the way. As much as you must not give up and still continue to pursue to understand each other, and also to be consistent to show love and care, as much as you are sincere, then I do believe that in due time love will be cultivated to both of you.

It is not good to have a relationship with someone who is still married to someone else. That is why it is better to be friends at first and if you see each other in person, then you will really know how he or she reacts and his or her ways will tell you how she or he likes you back. The best thing to do is, do not think what you can get to someone, but what you can give and you position yourself to be loved in return.

[Edwin]

Having peace in your heart that the person is the one is good. Problems and disagreements are bound to happen, but they can be worked out, and people can come to an understanding of each other. Show love and concern and be sincere, and then it will be returned. Be friends at first, and think of giving rather than taking, and then it will be returned.