How to Handle Hurt?

[m&m]

There are people who cannot handle hurt in life. They tend to focus in their hurts rather than looking forward what is good and what is the right thing to do.

We can be hurt in many ways, especially when our expectation is not met. For instance, you thought that somebody will love you back of what you feel for him or her.

But, I realize that if we only look for what is best for someone, I do believe that we position our lives to receive such thing.

Have you notice that if you are sweet to your niece and nephews, they are sweet to you also? If you treat someone good and really have good intention and good heart, he or she will treat you the same? If there are some who cannot really respond the way you treated them, then that would be okay but later on they will realize that you are such a wonderful person.

If someone hurt you or me, better cry it to the Lord and He will heal your hurt. Being honest and open to God of how we feel will lighten our hearts and asking forgiveness in the best thing to do.

[Edwin]

Yes, M&M, where our focus is makes a big difference! We are to look to Jesus who is the author and the finisher of our faith! Doing the right thing helps move our focus away from our hurts. Yes, love begets love, and when we love, we will usually be loved in return with a few exceptions, and then sometimes the return of that love is later when we least expect it. Crying to the Lord is the way to deal with our hurts. We ask forgiveness from Him, and we are honest with Him, and He hears us when we cry out to Him. Sometimes we dare not tell some how we are feeling and what we think, but we can always tell the Lord what we think and how we feel, and He will hear us when we call to Him!

[Smiley]

It is best to understand the intentions and attitudes of someone before confiding too much personal information.Some people are quick to turn what they might see as weaknesses against you. When the fox hears the rabbit scream it comes running. . . . . . but not to help. Your faith,on the other hand can serve you well when the going gets tough.

[Edwin]

Yes, Smiley, some people are so trusting they have no idea anyone would ever have bad intentions! That caused me lots of troubles with renter, because they could lie to me, and I would believe them, afterwhich I could not believe what they were capable of doing to me, and they have no conscience about it either. They would be devestated if anyone did those things to them! I learned that some people don't mind cheating you at all, and there are some people who will destroy your house and walk away from it with no problem. Well, I think God will pay them back!

When you are giving some people personal information they are ready to use that to hurt you, and they have a big grin on their face while they are doing it. If you can trust someone it is okay to confide, but be careful! It is always safe to tell it to Jesus though.

[purex]

When you focus on your hurt, it become more strong. I have learned that if I will get hurt again, I would trust the Lord that He is preparing much better and what is best for me. Trusting Him makes me stronger because I know that He knows what is best for me. Focus and look up to Jesus when you are hurt.

[Edwin]

You are right, purex, that focusing on your hurt makes it worse. Trusting the Lord is always good, and He does know what is best for us! Trusting the Lord does make us stronger, because our strength is in the Lord. When you are hurt the very best thing to do is to look up to Jesus, and Jesus does care! Give your hurt to Jesus, and let Him carry your heavy burden. Ask Jesus to take your hurt away, and give you love, joy, and peace!

[crisipicada]

Because being part of human being is to feel emotion, there is always tendency to be hurt whether we like it or not. Sometimes, or many times, our emotion is greater than our brain and that we tend to be affected. As we encounter many trials and hurts in life, the more we become strong as much as we take it positively. But sometimes it is hard, really

[Edwin]

Crisi, you said that many times our emotion is greater than our brain, and you are certainly correct on that. In high school some of the classes attempted to teach some about sex, although they didn't used to do as much of that as they do now. What they said was the sex was a very strong drive. The people who decide that they will just have a little sex, and can control it are completely wrong. Some think they can have a little of the pleasure and stop before it becomes final so that pregnancy will not result are wrong. When it gets close to the end of the sex act it is completely beyond the control of the people involved to be able to stop. They go all the way, and then they ask each other "why did we do that?" So, yes we often do what our emotions drives us to regardless of what our brains are telling us.

Yes, Crisi, it is hard. We will be hurt whether we want to, of course we don't want to, but we will be hurt anyway. When we take the risk, sometimes it is good, and sometimes it is not good. We just need to trust in the Lord and go forward. Yes, as we take if positively we do become stronger. The Lord is there to help us through it all!

[mystic]

There are three (main) levels, or worlds, each with its urges. From the lowest (most material) to the highest, they are: body, spirit and soul. Somebody places the spirit over the soul, but I don't want to enter a philosophical issue here. Let's take is just as an example.

Now, we live in a material world. Therefore, the lowest realms have a predominance. The body is described in the Talmud as barking and angry dogs. It has many urges: hunger, thirst, and of course also sex. Man is often slave of those things and will interrupt anything just to satisfy his immediate bodily needs.

Spirit (emotion) has its needs, which are in a softer voice than the bodily needs. You might need love, friendship, spiritual advancement, the strength to learn and play a new musical instrument... Of course, you don't do this if you are hungry, because the body takes the precedence. You can survive without love, but you cannot survive without food.

The soul (God's spark) has an even subtler voice ("A still small voice", 1 Kings 19:12). It is so subtle that body and spirit often cover it completely. It needs a really sensible person to be able to listen to it and grow it.

So, it is true that emotion is greater than the brain (or has a thicker voice). How to overcome this natural fault? Through the same rules that govern each realm.
If you are starving of hunger, you don't go to an important business interview, where you need all your concentration. And in the same way, you dont overeat just before the same interview. What you do is that you set up the proper times for your body, spirit and soul. You "pacify" your body first, so that it is happy and stays quiet. With this action, you put to sleep the barking dogs, and you are able to listen to the voice of your spirit.
If you want to connect to God with your soul, you have also to pacify your spirit. If you read the psalms, for example, David was used to call the harpist (or similar instrumentist) before the start of the prayer. He was pacifying his spirit (emotions), so that he was in control of it and could listen to the still small voice, his soul.

These are just examples, but they can be applied to any aspect of life. It is very important to care for the Temple that God gave us in all its worlds. Only from their good balance we will be able to grow spiritually, pass our trials, and listen to the still small voice of our soul (which is the direct link with God). So, it is important to have a good body balance and a good emotional balance.

[Edwin]

mystic, I think I read something about a pyrimid of needs, maybe in psychology class. You have your basic needs like the cravings of the body. The body needs to be satisfied before some of the other needs can be addressed. Like you say, if you are hungry, you won't do very well in the interview. We need food, shelter, and water. We also need rest and sleep so that our bodies will function and mend themselves, allowing for the elimination of wastes. We want to have sex because it is a natural drive that God has placed within us. We also want to be loved and cared for. What we have to realize is that God is with us no matter how we feel. When we don't feel on top of the world, it may take faith to believe that God is with us, but He is according to His word, and we can rely on Him!