Troubling to find one's soulmate

[Edwin]

I think sometimes people get too anxious and get into too big of a hurry, so then they rush into something they shouldn't be in. Someone here, and I don't remember just now who it was, said, "Marry in haste, and repent at leisure." So take your time anyway, and don't get too anxious. Be anxious for nothing. We don't need more anxiety, but we need peace and tranquility. Crisi has a great idea to make yourself into the person that the other person would want, then that person will find you, and you will be the right one!

[mystic]

Well, this devotional was interesting. I am glad at the moment I am not troubling, because there is someone in my life. Let's leave it in God's hands whether it will work and it is meant to be. Surely it will require a lot of effort and commitment.

[Edwin]

Mystic, I am glad that you are not troubled at the moment. It is not fun to be troubled! It is nice to have someone in your life to keep your life a little more pleasant, and have someone that you can bounce off ideas with. There is some comfort in that. Leaving it in God's hands is always the best, to then see where it will go. Yes, any successful relationship does require effort, and commitment is important from one person to the other. Both people need to be commited to keep it happy and make it work.

[purex]

I learn that when someone you love wont love you in return, then it must not be the issue. You and I can love someone even he or she wont love us in return. But I do believe that to love someone is really a choice. Just like what Christ has done on the cross, He choose to love us and He paid our sins at the cross, even if people do not love Him in return. To love the Lord is a choice also. But Christ has loved us first.

[m&m]

Mystic, when you find her, hold on tight, until she takes you to her mother and father!

Oh, wasn't it supposed to happen the opposite way? I mean, the woman holding tight on the man?

Well, I am not the type who holds too tight, because I don't want to bug the person. Oh, maybe that's why I am still single

Anyway, I really would like to know: when a woman is making a distance with the man, how should the man behave, provided that he is genuinely interested in her? I come up with the following options:

1. Hold on her tight and not let her go
2. Let her go
3. Pray more
4. Be patient, stay on her side and wait

Any other option? But... which one is the best?

I suggest be diligent on pursuing her. I heard many couples in the Philippines, mostly women said that their now husband were very diligent in courting then until they fell in love and finally said yes in marriage. When a woman say no for your love at first try, don't give up if you really like and love her work hard more show her how much you care and love her. It might work that way.

That is true, Red. Sometimes, we try to not into relationship because we feel tired and feeling ignored. I am not expecting a lot but most of all I wanted to feel special anyway. I believe you too, Red, love that your husband now would treat you special. Hehe

[crisipicada]

Not troubling, really. The Scriptures seem to imply a certainty.

“She is a Tree of Life to them that lay hold on her; and happy is every one that retains her” (Proverbs 3:18)

“And she shall be his wife; he may not put her away all his days” (Deuteronomy 22:19)

The word "her" in the book of Proverbs chapter 3 is "wisdom". It speaks about being happy if we gain wisdom. In Proverbs 3:13, reads, happy is the man who finds wisdom...in verse 18, wisdom isd the tree of life to those who take hold of her(wisdom).

There is trouble in finding someone's soulmate because one might not ready yet and someone has not complementes the need of one another. Example, women needs emotional need. Also loving someone in the wrong time id thr wrong thing. My mother was right she told me before, when love is so strong and feelings is the litmys of thr relarionship and when your expectation did not happen then love turns to hate. I am very practical to love someone. Not only in words but i desire to be in my presence physically. I struggle when someone i love wil be sad or has many diffulties in life and i am not there to hug him then i make a move to be there for him. And if not happen then i feel that i am not for him. If i am in relationship i try to have a talk that whatever happens to us let us not say that we wil separate or leave me because i am praying for a husband and i purpose in my heart that to marry someone is to have family to spend life together and no other thing. if God wants me to be a fulltime mother then I will obey Him and if God wants me to work or help my future husband in making a living then i will obey the Lord. With such heart of right motive in marraige ghe Lordwill grant our hearts desire to find the one. The one is not someone who is abstract but the one is a choice with whom we want to spend life depending on whom and what kind of person we wanted to live life together. i learn to wait, trust and pray to God. May He grants me my desire at heart with someone who desire to live a life in obedience to the Lord and serving Him in daily life. God bless to all of us who search for someone partner in life.

[callmemaybe]

Hi im turning 23 next month and I admit I have troubles on finding my soulmate I dont know it just felt like I am really old although I consider myself to look old coz I wear glasses. Sometimes it is a big struggle to find that special person in my life. I used to listen "Thinking Out Loud" song (have you listened to it yet? I doubt you dont!) you know the feelings of being utterly hopeful then listening to this kind of song. You just want to explode and beg the time to plsss come faster so I can finally meet my Mr. Grey lol joke Mr. Right rather. It wont be easy plus I felt like having a big time pressure because of my peers. Some of them are now married or have a family with kids and Im just sitting like uggh I appreciate that I still go to school though and every time I get to school I really felt it is a big blessing. But yeah the bitter reality is that it feels like time has left me I hope someday it will be a better me and a better life with the One. I hope so. I really do.

[wayne208]

Callmenaybe . I am Not in a Hurry as I want My Life to be just Right for My Wife to Be .. I will not rush into a Marriage that will fall apart like a house of Cards . I want My Marriage to last for as Long as I Live . Yes I am Taking It slow do I wish I was already Married with The Right Lady ?? Yes of Course I do . But Like other People have said Why rush into a Marriage that will not last . Wait and Make Sure She Loves You as Much as You Love Her or Him as the case May Be .Then You will have a Chance to Find True Happiness .

[lyrehc]

Rushing into marriage means a short cut of it...I mean why rush..right.. There will be a right time and a right place for everything..marriage is a sacred sacrament..we most not trouble our self for the thing called love..let the love finds it way to you..it is also a choice on when to love and to whom it will be givin but if its Gods will it will be done accourding to his plan..and when Gods plan on our life everything will be set perfectly we just have to accept everything he had givin...

[Smiley]

I believe that the situation changes with different personalities. Not everybody thinks the same thought or reacts the same way to every development.
People that act impulsively and always look for instant gratification seldom stick with a relationship for long.I once had a shipmate that ended up separated and filing for divorce less than a year from the time they had met!This was obviously not well thought out. They both were remarried to other people within 2 months of the divorce and separated again shortly after.
I also know a guy who married his pen pal from the Dominican Republic (I think),They had been corresponding for some time but got married when he went for a 2 week visit. That was almost 30 years ago and they are still in a wonderful marriage. It depends on the people involved and their qualities.
Some people want to get married because they feel like they have no life.They might feel that getting married will fix what is wrong.That seldom turns out to be a good plan.