Infatuation
* Sees the other person as perfect
* Wants to get own needs met; selfish
* Spends all time with the other person
* Quickly “falls” for the other person
* Other relationships and friendships deteriorate
* Dependence on the other person causes
* Jealousy frequently
* Lasts for a short period of time
* Distance strains and often puts an end to the relationship
* Quarrels are serious and common
* Quarrels can seriously damage the relationship
Love
* Sees the other person’s flaws and still loves them
* Wants to serve the other person; selfless
* Still spends time with others
* Takes time to build the relationship
* Other relationships and friendships grow stronger
* Trust and understanding results in less severe and less frequent jealousy
* Encompasses a long-term commitment
* Survives and sometimes is strengthened because of distance
* Quarrels are less serious and less often
* Quarrels can strengthen the relationship
The question is, do you want a lasting and satisfying relationship?
If so, infatuation is not the answer.
Look at your relationships through the above comparisons. Infatuation is not a bad thing as long as we don’t base a relationship on it.