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by **crisipicada** » Fri Mar 02, 2012 4:14 am

I believe that it is plainly dangerous to love at first sight. our hearts are full of deceit. Something feeling good will soon feeling bitter. If things wont go right, you regret that you have given much time of that person whom you realize you have just hurt yourself. For me, if someone has lifted your heart above God, and been neglecting your spiritual life - Bible reading, prayer, devotional, then it is plainly wrong and you will really end up mess. I realize and put it in my heart that God is a jealous God, if something or someone has placed beyond my love for God, that is already idolatry and that is plainly sinful and God hates that. Be very careful with your hearts and so with your eyes!

by **Edwin** » Sat Mar 03, 2012 12:40 am

Love struck is another term for love at first sight. You are correct, Crisi, in that love at first sight is dangerous. For one thing you don't know enough about a person to be loving at first sight. Smiley said, "I experienced "love at first sight" once.After a good second look I couldn`t get away quick enough." Sometimes that is the case, you can't get away fast enough after the first sight. That is very correct about idolatry also, in that God is a jealous God, and we must love nothing or no one above God. He deserves our first love. We love God first, and then we love each other, as God would want us to, with pure love, which is described in I Corinthians 13:

by **Edwin** » Sun Mar 18, 2012 12:19 am

I saw a news article on YahooNews about "Love at First Sight." I didn't read the article. You can google search it, find it, and read it if you wish. Even though I didn't read the article, there was a condensed abbreviated summary of the article. What it said is that more men find love at first sight than do women. Do you think that is true, and if so, why do you think it is true? Does the fact that men have a tendency to be more visually oriented have anything to do with this? :roll:

by **edeline** » Tue Mar 27, 2012 6:07 pm

Edwin wrote:I saw a news article on YahooNews about "Love at First Sight." I didn't read the article. You can google search it, find it, and read it if you wish. Even though I didn't read the article, there was a condensed abbreviated summary of the article. What it said is that more men find love at first sight than do women. Do you think that is true, and if so, why do you think it is true? Does the fact that men have a tendency to be more visually oriented have anything to do with this?

In my own opinion I do agree that more men find love at first sight than women do. In the case that men can get attracted easily on how a girl looks like and when they want to have that certain woman they can express their feelings unlike us girls, we can admire and we can say we can have love at first sight but no one knows except ourselves. No matter we are in love at first sight to someone, we can't open it. We are keeping it as much as possible because for me it is ashame and also I don't want time will come that the man whom I love at first sight will just take advantage on my feelings for him. I prefer that someone will want me or court me because he likes me and not because he knows that I like him or I am in love at first sight of him. Way back in our college, I liked someone and I admired him so much. I kept on myself until I told my friend about it. When she knew about it she kept on teasing me and I was so so angry with that because I don't want that the guy will be thinking I was trying to get points. After that, I tried my best not to be very obvious that I liked him and little by little I didn't like him no more.

When I was in Elementary I like somoene so much because he was intelligent and ofcourse he was skillful. When he knew that I liked him, he started boasting specially that he knew there were many girls liked him at that time. We used to fight and discriminate me. After he discriminated me, I never talke dto him and I got so so angry at him. The admiration that I had for him turned to disappointment and anger. I said one day you will talk to me and I will ignore you. It did really happen where we met accidentally and I was from school at that time. He called my name and I just had a fake smile on him. He felt he was so lucky because he had many admirers and he was so boastful. No one likes a man who is boastful.

by **Edwin** » Wed Mar 28, 2012 12:04 am

We have an unwritten rule that the girl is not supposed to chase the boy. The boy is supposed to make the first move. I think in the Philippines that rule is observed even more strictly than in our country. That is a hard one because if the girl has feelings she wants to communicate that to the boy, but she doesn't dare. All she can do is drop subtle hints, and hope he picks up on the hints, huh? That may be one of the reasons that the man is credited with having love at first sight more than the woman. They say that rules are made to be broken, and maybe this is the case here. Break the rules, but be careful. I heard a story exactly like you told, Edeline. It involved my ex brother-in-law's sister, and another guy that I happened to know. He wouldn't give her the time of day early on. Then she won some kind of contest, and after he wanted her to pay attention to him, but it was too late, he would not give her the time of day. These guys thinking they are so handsome, and so cool; but they are not. As you say, Edeline, the proud feeling and boastfulness is a turnoff. No one wants someone who thinks he/she is wonderful, and everyone better take notice. My brother's ex mother-in-law used to say, "Pretty is as pretty does." That is about the same as describing a person as being beautiful on the inside. Beautiful inside and out is great. It is far better to be beautiful on the inside, than to only be beautiful on the outside. Love at first sight might have a lot to do with outer beauty. But after the second sight you might actually find more beauty on the inside!

by **Smiley** » Wed Mar 28, 2012 3:18 pm

There was a song a few years ago by a Canadian band entitled" She ain`t Pretty,She Just Looks That Way". Sums up a lot of my personal experience.
I have met women that don`t seem at all stunning at first glance who become increasingly attractive the longer you know them. I have also met what could pass for the perfect woman on the first meeting become fairly repulsive as time goes on.

BTW: The song was on Youtube. Its by 'The northern Pikes. Worth a listen

by **red** » Wed Mar 28, 2012 5:32 pm

Yep, sounds familiar. Some may appear very good at first like you won't expect that they can cheat or hurt you but heck, it is the exact opposite. Handsome or ugly I guess you will never know what is at stake in a relationship. Everything shows the longer you are on it.

by **Edwin** » Thu Mar 29, 2012 12:19 am

Yes, in time it all comes out, so it is best to take that time before getting attached. I think it is a gamble whether you find your person sooner or later. It is probably best to avoid the temptation to get attached after the first sight. It is better to take some time, and make sure it is the right thing, then go for it!

by **Smiley** » Sat Mar 31, 2012 1:20 pm

Love at first sight might actually exist but I doubt it.It is usually wistfull thinking.First impressions are seldom complete enough to base any relationship on other than a physical one.
A lot of people obsess on finding love.Ironically this can make them less attractive to most and more attractive to others that share the obsession.Gee Beav,what could possibly go wrong there?
Both men and women have needs but it would serve us all well to not be too needy about it.Someone that chases a relatonship too actively runs the risk of losing sight of what they really should have.
Years ago.in Makati, I was about 26 or 27, A young American kid about 24 or so became my shadow. He just latched on and I could not get away.This kid was a mess. He had the same job for 6 years and still lived in his mothers house so he had quite a bit of money. Unfortunately he was fat,stupid,and arrogant.I doubt he would have been able to find a girlfriend in a woman's penitentiary.His mother had paid his way to the Philippines and his goal was to get married.Everywhere we went this guy would ask some girl right out to marry him.It was embarrassing. He got into a loud argument with a local at a mall and when security showed up he,you guessed it , asked her to marry him. She called the cops. After we got out of that one he decided that it would be a good idea to show the girls his bankbook and a picture of his car to "you know,show them that I can give them a good life". I left him at a girlie bar.Wonder how he made out?

by **crisipicada** » Tue Apr 03, 2012 1:52 am

Edwin wrote:We have an unwritten rule that the girl is not supposed to chase the boy. The boy is supposed to make the first move. I think in the Philippines that rule is observed even more strictly than in our country. That is a hard one because if the girl has feelings she wants to communicate that to the boy, but she doesn't dare. !

Yes, that is very true Sir Edwin. It is so hard to tell someone you love while that man did not know that you love him. Very Very Hard. It is not our culture to chase man. Even me, I cannot dare to tell him that I love him. That was when I was in college. I really love my teacher, he is so nice, great and most of all very articulate and witty. He treated us his friends outside the class. Later on, I learn to fall for him but I never told him that I had a feeling for him , I was in third year college at that time. Until now it is so hard to tell :lol: