Things you have done after breaking up with someone you love

[Edwin]

Different people deal with breakups in different ways. Some people do work excessively to deal with the hurts, and that is not all bad. They become so occupied that they don't have time to think about hurts. Some people find other things to do, maybe hobbies. Breaking up is maybe not as serious as death, but some have made that comparison, and have even said that divorce is worse than death. I think the person involved has to grieve like there is a death, and then they have to get beyond that and realize that they have to recover and go on living. That is what happens when someone close to us dies. We feel like we die too, and then after a time we realize that we have to go on living. It is natural to hurt from a breakup, and there is a natural grieving process, and then a time to get over the loss, and then move on. The Lord helps people in that situation as they look to Him.

[red]

I believed that when you're hurt it means you have loved.

[Edwin]

That is true Red, from what I have heard. The more you love the more apt you are to be hurt, and the worse your hurt will be. If you just love a little, or maybe not even love, but just like, you are unlikely to be hurt in a breakup. People who love become vulnerable. The put themselves in a position to be hurt worse. It is a chance that we take, and we must take the chance to have something valuable, and pray it works out!

[edeline]

So, share it here the things you have done after breaking up with your special someone..be it a bad ones or good ones.

i must admit..yeah, i cried silently, and I never tell anyone about it..I've prayed hard to help me forget and move on..i tried to be w/ my friends and keep myself busy as well..in that case i don't have time to think of him..done stupid?..nope i never did anything stupid..coz if i do, i know that it is me who will suffer at the end..I guess only stupid people do such things, right?..

You are such a brave person that you can cry silently because me I can't do that. I am trying my best that I will not cry but tears just fall down on my eyes when I am badly hurt.

[Edwin]

When you are badly hurt it is difficult to keep it inside and they say you shouldn't keep it inside, but let yourself cry when you need to. Some have said what they do to deal with their hurts when losing someone. Well, sometimes a person can get hurt so badly that they are traumatized to the point that nothing seems to work. I can tell you about myself, that when something is bothing me badly I can't even play the piano, which normally provides comfort, especially with the church songs/hymns that I play. I just sit there and play repeatitive chords that don't mean anything. Carol even told me that I play the piano well except for when something is bothering me, and she is right. I repeat chords while something is playing with my mind, and then if I am actually playing the song, I make lots of mistakes while I am feeling disturbed.

But music does have a healing quality. When the evil spirit would trouble King Saul, David would play on his harp for Saul, and the troubling spirit would leave him for a time. That is when he was walking against God's will and doing evil things. But the music David played was like healing medicine for him.

[edeline]

Last time when I was set free or broken hearted, I was badly hurt. I drank and wanted to get wild. My heart is so fragile. How I wish I am like the others who is not hurt easily but this is me and I have to deal with it. I am out in my mind when I am broken hearted and I wanted to do something to stop everything which I think I should just keep to myself. Break ups are always not easy specially if you are giving everything and you didn't expect a certain thing to happen but still it happens..God help me....

[Edwin]

Many of us have fragile hearts, we get hurt easily, and we do things we shouldn't when we are hurting. What has been said in the other post is that someone who loves a lot gets hurt a lot. When you love and put yourself into the relationship you become vulnerable, and then if someone does not treat you right, it hurts even worse. I am sensitive, and when I get hurt, I get hurt badly, and I think there are a lot of people like that; the ones that are loving and caring. Often that makes it even worse when it happens unexpectly. I will pray that God will help you Edeline.

[crisipicada]

Last time when I was set free or broken hearted, I was badly hurt. I drank and wanted to get wild. My heart is so fragile. How I wish I am like the others who is not hurt easily but this is me and I have to deal with it. I am out in my mind when I am broken hearted and I wanted to do something to stop everything which I think I should just keep to myself. Break ups are always not easy specially if you are giving everything and you didn't expect a certain thing to happen but still it happens..God help me....

"Heart broken makes us stronger", this quote reminds me of my friend who was broken-hearted. Remember that what we expect wont always be what would happen. Just be very careful when loving someone because it really hurts when you have grown deeply with your love to someone. ANd also, our hearts is always making things against our brain, that is why we must use our head more than our hearts. After our relationship ends, we then realize how stupid we are by carried away by our emotions. It is easy to say this but by the grace of God, and do not lean on in your own understanding because we are not capable of making right decisions in life. Only by God's wisdom we can decide what is the right thing.

I always remind myself, from now on, " I TRUST GOD BY TRUSTING YOU and I TRUST YOU BY TRUSTING GOD. " By these words, I can always give back to God my whole life.

[edeline]

I do agree with what you said Crisi.. We can find inner peace and betterment when we let God be at the center in the relationship.

[Edwin]

We have all heard the expression love is blind, and yes it is. When we fall for someone we have this image in our mind, and someone has said that often we are really not in love with that person, but we are in love with our own impression of what we want them to be. I have heard it said that we should have our eyes wide open going into the relationship, and then once married close our eyes to the faults of the other person. We all have faults that need to be overlooked, or love that person anyway. Jesus loved us and loves us inspite of our faults. I think this somewhat goes along with what Crisi has said about using our head instead of allowing ourselves to become carried away with our emotions, but also that is easier said than done, because we are emotional creatures, and we tend to get our emotions involved to where we can't even think straight. Also putting God at the center of our lives helps protect us in these situations.