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Why are there broken homes? broken marriages? In my opinion, it is because God is not the center of the relationship. True commitment in marriage will only work when both had that FEAR of the LORD. "The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom." Wisdom to identify RIGHT FROM WRONG. Wisdom of both partners to settle their differences in the context of God's perspective and discipline. Wisdom of both partners to pray together and surrender to the feet of Jesus all their concerns.
Entering into marriage without the "WISDOM OF GOD" in finding a partner is truly a big problem in the end. It is very important that both truly understand what they are entering into, because marriage is a divine vow not a broken vow. It must be a true commitment beyond self or physical satisfaction, beyond beautiful dreams, nice plans and programs on how to ran a family, beyond having children, beyond anything else. Because the ULTIMATE REASON FOR MARRIAGE is for us to understand the TRUE LOVE OF GOD to men. A DEEPER UNDERSTANDING OF WHAT TRUE LOVE IS, CAN ONLY BE ATTAINED WHEN WE HAVE THE RIGHT RELATIONSHIP IN THE LORD AND ACKNOWLEDGING THAT WE NEED HIS MERCY AND GRACE TO ATTAIN TRUE COMMITMENT IN MARRIAGE. APART FROM HIM, WE CAN DO NOTHING.

I think the main reason is that God is not honored in the home. I also think there is a lack of commitment on the part of the marrying couple. They go into the marriage thinking that if it doesn't work out they will bail out rather than being committed to making it work. Every married couple have disappointments along the way, but some are determined to work it out anyway and some use the disappointments as an excuse to end the marriage. In our family I have a sister and brother with broken homes. One is still married to his second wife, and my younger sister had several marriages that did not work. One of her husbands was a mental case, and the other was gay, so now I think she has settled on remaining single. We have a daughter that is on her third marriage. These broken marriages are really devestating to the kids. A lot of people are effected by failed marriages. My older sister and her husband lived all their lives together, and he just died last January. He was a good brother-in-law, and Carol and I have managed to stay together through thick and thin. I've heard it said that some situations can't be helped when one marriage partner is abusive or determined to leave, and so we can't judge, but God first allowed divorce because of the hardness of people's hearts. Marriage is a picture of the heavenly, where we are the bride of Christ, and he is the husband, or head of the church.

WHY? for me its because they forgot to put GOD in between their relationship, although i am not yet married or into serious relationship and most of all i grew up in a happy family but i have seen now days there were lots of marriage who broke their promises and us-usual one cause of this is a poor foundation of their christian faith.A trend of today also one reason why many marriage are not successful,some were just letting themselves to be tempted by trendy lifestyle.If you are not yet ready for marriage and commitment then don't take the risk to get marry because you still not contented being single that's one factor to all broken marriages.

There are broken marriages because there is no commitment in marriage. If they are committed what ever happens then marriage life still remain. If God is not glorified in any relationship, definitely it wont work out.

m&m wrote:It saddened me to hear about broken homes because i am a victim also. My parents got separated for almost 14 years but they never ended annulment or find another party, but it was so painful experience and we the children are affected so much, emotionally. For me, if you stared wrong with your relationship then you ended up wrong. So start with right and continue to do the right thing with pure heart and what ever the road maybe, family will be happy and be together for a life time

My wife was from a broken home, and it has affected her for all of her life. She has had trouble believing that anyone would love her because her mother deserted her when she was two years old, and she lived with other people who really didn't love her, only put up with her until she was grown, and she still suffers from it now being 68 years old.

Edwin wrote:

m&m wrote:It saddened me to hear about broken homes because i am a victim also. My parents got separated for almost 14 years but they never ended annulment or find another party, but it was so painful experience and we the children are affected so much, emotionally. For me, if you stared wrong with your relationship then you ended up wrong. So start with right and continue to do the right thing with pure heart and what ever the road maybe, family will be happy and be together for a life time

My wife was from a broken home, and it has affected her for all of her life. She has had trouble believing that anyone would love her because her mother deserted her when she was two years old, and she lived with other people who really didn't love her, only put up with her until she was grown, and she still suffers from it now being 68 years old.

Actually I think she was one and one half years old when her mother left her, and it was sad.

When i was 18 years old my late father was so strict about me. I didn't know that he visited me at the university and check me out if i was at school and where i spent my vacant classes. He was so protected about me since i am the youngest daughter and the one who live with him with my two younger brothers when my parents got separated when i was 2nd year high school. At that time, i realize how much father gave importance on me about my education. He said, "i don't have anything for all of you to give even a piece of land, i have nothing but all i can give you is education that others can never steal from you". I was in my fourth year college at that time. He keep on telling me that, i am already a woman and i must be very careful because at that age is the very crucial one.

Marriages got broken because both men and women are carried away by their feelings. Remember that the Bible is clear that it says, " The heart is deceitful above all things and desperately wicked, who can know it?" Because both couple are not yet ready for a marriage life, then it is a great possibility that marriage life be broken. Not ready emotionally, physically, mentally, spiritually and financially. Have you heard the saying "Bisag saging basta loving" (It means that despite difficulty and sometimes only banana is available for food as much as love is there)? The best to do is to include God in every relationship and He will give you the best .