Having Low Profile

[crisipicada]

Okay, I have read some of the profiles of my friends on facebook that they are putting low profile. I mean, they just put their education as high school graduate but actually they gone more. Also, sometimes do not place what really they are all about.

My question now is, Is this being a lier or cheating? Or let us say, what is your purpose of writing such being low profile? Also, what are your reasons for not telling your fullname and using other name?

For me, I do not put my name because for privacy and for security reason. Also, I just let small people to be friends on my account like in facebook.

For me, I do not lie actually because I just want that low profile. But it is true that I have gone highschool. Hope that someone understand that.

Anyone can share their ideas please. I just really need your comments.

[Chas]

Don't post on Facebook anything you are not prepared to share widely.
Preferably use a nickname.
Screw down your privacy settings so only those you want can see YOUR data.
Be very strict about who is on your friends list.
Do not give Facebook apps access to your data.
Do not give your real date of birth
Do not give your employer.

In the west many use online banking. Key data to access your account is your Surname, date of birth and often something private about you such as mother's maiden name or name of first pet. In addition people often use partners names as passwords, or favourite sports teams. All this is data that people will share on Facebook. Hackers love it. ID thieves love it. Journalists love Facebook as a source of information about somebody who is in the news. You might not be famous, you might just have had a bad accident that made the news and whilst you are in hospital photos and data from your Facebook account are used in the news article.

Facebook can be useful - but be very careful when using it. If you must use a social network move to Diaspora (Google it) and use that social network with your friends.

[crisipicada]

what if in dating sites, they have low profile. Could that be a cheat? For that reason of not telling the whole truth as having low profile?

[fenmoor]

what if in dating sites, they have low profile. Could that be a cheat? For that reason of not telling the whole truth as having low profile?

Well in my not so humble opinion I think that would be the same as starting a relationship through lying. I am not certain WHY you would put that you only got through high school when you actually graduated college, but unless it is a very good reason, I would at LEAST tell the truth soon after I started talking to someone.

I think hiding you name address etc... is simply good sense. Too many crazy people out there! But lying about your likes or accomplishments I never understand. If you have to lie to someone for them to like you, why are you talking to them in the first place?

Bill

[crisipicada]

what if in dating sites, they have low profile. Could that be a cheat? For that reason of not telling the whole truth as having low profile?

Well in my not so humble opinion I think that would be the same as starting a relationship through lying. I am not certain WHY you would put that you only got through high school when you actually graduated college, but unless it is a very good reason, I would at LEAST tell the truth soon after I started talking to someone.

I think hiding you name address etc... is simply good sense. Too many crazy people out there! But lying about your likes or accomplishments I never understand. If you have to lie to someone for them to like you, why are you talking to them in the first place?

Bill

you have the point about telling someone latter than to brag your accomplishment over the internet. It is not good also. Well, it depends on the person. Thanks for the comment

[fenmoor]

you have the point about telling someone latter than to brag your accomplishment over the internet. It is not good also. Well, it depends on the person. Thanks for the comment

Ahh I think I understand a little better now. Let me make sure I understand. At times you may not want to mention the things that you have done well in life, because it might seem like you are boasting upon yourself... Correct?

Well since you restrict those that can see your Facebook so much, do they not already know you have graduated College? If you have a lot of people that do not know you very well, then MAYBE I guess. But pride is an issue of the heart. Someone might THINK you are being prideful, but be wrong. If you are posting your education to rub someones nose in it or to show how much better you are then someone else, then yes that is very bad and I would consider it a sin.

But if you are simply telling people the truth and your heart is pure in it, then those that would think you prideful are sinning by judging you unjustly.

As far as a dating site, I cannot really think of a good reason to lie about something like that. Especailly in a long distance relationship... Trust is SO hard to maintain in a LDR anyway... if you START your relationship with a lie, and he finds out about it later... How would you react if you found him lying to you about something? Not good!

just my thoughts... your mileage may vary Throw away that which you do not like... hopefully some of my words will remain!

Bill

[crisipicada]

That is not an issue to me if you place your profile in fb or dating sites as in you are having a low profile because i have my own reasons. And of course that is not a lie for me. Yes, trust is important and that is the very foundation of a relationship- trust to both of you and to God. I do not see anything problem about that. One reason you want to have profile because you want to know if the person will love you despite you are having low profile, right? Then, later on you will tell her or him that you have that achievements and now what a surprise if he or she will know. And the good thing, you know he or she loves you even you have low profile.

[fenmoor]

Ahh I think I see now... Although I would probably just not list my education, but then they might ask etc... I can see where that would be important... I did not look at it that way, perhaps that is because I never thought it too important if a person graduated from college

But I see that sometimes in people that have wealth, they will purposefully hide their wealth to make sure someone loves them and not their money...

I see what you are saying Crissi.

Bill

[crisipicada]

Ahh I think I see now... Although I would probably just not list my education, but then they might ask etc... I can see where that would be important... I did not look at it that way, perhaps that is because I never thought it too important if a person graduated from college

But I see that sometimes in people that have wealth, they will purposefully hide their wealth to make sure someone loves them and not their money...

I see what you are saying Crissi.

Bill

correct hehehe

[Edwin]

Right now I can't even remember what I put as a profile on facebook. I think I just listed my place of high school, and I didn't give much personal information at all. I got on at first because one of my daughters talked me into it to keep track of my grandson who at the time was in Africa. I didn't even use it, and my daughter came to our house and used my facebook to accept her and her son as friends, and that's the way it started out. Then Carol took it over, still in my name, then she added her name, then she got her own, then she took her name off mine, then she deleted her account because of personal family problems with animosity between our kids, and now she uses mine, but she usually says this is from Carol.