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chaychay644 wrote:There are many people, that even though they are in a serious relationship hates commitment. Especially if the involved persons are still young or in the middle of their career. Being with a person who does not want to commit is not easy, especially if you’ve learned to love that person.

Some may feel guilty & keep on asking themselves of “why their bf/gf hates to commit to them”. It would serve as a hanging questions on their mind thinking what they’ve done wrong. It may cause you, many sleepless nights trying to figure things out.

There are some reasons why people choose not to commit & it varies from one person to another. I still remember the movie of Anne Curtis & Aga Muhlach. It was Anne who does not want to commit for a reason that she hates responsibility & expectations. You know being checked from time to time, where she is & to whom she is with & she also has that notion in mind that her past failed relationship would happen again. In real life, these could also be the reason why your bf/gf does not want to commit.

If you really love the person, you will be patient & try to prove that you’re just right for him/her.

But, how long are you willing to wait?

Last Saturday, i watch the program "Failon Ngayun" or "Failon Now". THe story of a couple wherein the man is a handicapped. He is almost a beggar. His feet are small and he can't work as we are. He confessed that he has been praying that someday he will find a woman who is committed for a life time and will love him as who he is. HE added, there is no impossible in prayer. He cried and tears of joy and love flows in his cheeks on the weeding day. The good thing happened is that Ted Failon, the host of the ABS-CBN program become their sponsor. Did you know where their reception and honeymoon? Hmmmmmp, just in Shangrila hotel in Manila. Wowwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww, thay are so blessed. Not only that, the program gave pangkabuhay "Livelihood" showcase, karenderia "restaurant" to start a business. Indeed, Chay, prayer is very important in a relationship. There is really special meant for you in the right time.

crisipicada wrote:
Because i still believe the old saying: "Mother/Fathers knows best.

Chas wrote:

crisipicada wrote:
Because i still believe the old saying: "Mother/Fathers knows best.

Not always - Some parents have ulterior motives wanting to keep a daughter single to look after them in their old age. Some fathers are over protective of their daughters and nobody can ever be good enough for them. My reaction when my daughter brings home her first boyfriend will be interesting

From the other perspective parents (and friends) have to be careful in criticising their child/friends relationship. Rationale thought disappears when you are in love. For example - the lady in love with a married man, believing his protestations that he will leave his wife, can resent the well intentioned advice of relatives and friends. Often all you can do is make your feelings known once, then be there for them when the inevitable crash occurs.

chaychay644 wrote:There are many people, that even though they are in a serious relationship hates commitment. Especially if the involved persons are still young or in the middle of their career. Being with a person who does not want to commit is not easy, especially if you’ve learned to love that person.

Some may feel guilty & keep on asking themselves of “why their bf/gf hates to commit to them”. It would serve as a hanging questions on their mind thinking what they’ve done wrong. It may cause you, many sleepless nights trying to figure things out.

There are some reasons why people choose not to commit & it varies from one person to another. I still remember the movie of Anne Curtis & Aga Muhlach. It was Anne who does not want to commit for a reason that she hates responsibility & expectations. You know being checked from time to time, where she is & to whom she is with & she also has that notion in mind that her past failed relationship would happen again. In real life, these could also be the reason why your bf/gf does not want to commit.

If you really love the person, you will be patient & try to prove that you’re just right for him/her.

But, how long are you willing to wait?

ms.sin17 wrote:It is nOt a good idea tO pLay the emOtiOn Of a persOn. We must reaLize first that if peOpLe wiLL dO sOmething bad tO us.. are we gOing tO be happy? Of cOurse nOt, right? sO we must think first if Our actiOns will have a gOod impaCt Or a baD impaCt tO Others befOre dOing anything.. It is nOt an easy thing tO be hurt.. YOu knOw that feeLing that Once yOur heart Learned tO faLL fOr that persOn it wOuLd nOt be easy tO fOrget.. Cause I Once heared that, whenever yOu are inLOve, are yOu thinking??

crisipicada wrote:

ms.sin17 wrote:It is nOt a good idea tO pLay the emOtiOn Of a persOn. We must reaLize first that if peOpLe wiLL dO sOmething bad tO us.. are we gOing tO be happy? Of cOurse nOt, right? sO we must think first if Our actiOns will have a gOod impaCt Or a baD impaCt tO Others befOre dOing anything.. It is nOt an easy thing tO be hurt.. YOu knOw that feeLing that Once yOur heart Learned tO faLL fOr that persOn it wOuLd nOt be easy tO fOrget.. Cause I Once heared that, whenever yOu are inLOve, are yOu thinking??

Relationship without commitment is plainly dangerous. And if you don't have commitment, the bottom line their and the very reason is that you don't want responsibility or afraid of it

ms.sin17 wrote:

crisipicada wrote:

ms.sin17 wrote:It is nOt a good idea tO pLay the emOtiOn Of a persOn. We must reaLize first that if peOpLe wiLL dO sOmething bad tO us.. are we gOing tO be happy? Of cOurse nOt, right? sO we must think first if Our actiOns will have a gOod impaCt Or a baD impaCt tO Others befOre dOing anything.. It is nOt an easy thing tO be hurt.. YOu knOw that feeLing that Once yOur heart Learned tO faLL fOr that persOn it wOuLd nOt be easy tO fOrget.. Cause I Once heared that, whenever yOu are inLOve, are yOu thinking??

Relationship without commitment is plainly dangerous. And if you don't have commitment, the bottom line their and the very reason is that you don't want responsibility or afraid of it

Yes. That is true. But what is the reasOn why peOpLe cOmmit reLatiOnshiP withOut cOmmiment? Are they trying tO waste sOmebOdy`s time? want sOmebOdy tO get hurt?? Ohh weLL, I dOnt waste my time On that. LOve the persOn whOm yOu reaLLy LOve and dOnt hurt sOmebOdys feeLings cause getting hurt is nOt easy.. Why cOmmit if yOu dOnt want respOnsibiLity Or are afraid Of it? Let`s Live Our Life tO the fuLLest! COmmit if yOur in LOve! DOnt hide yOur respOnsibiLity!