How to make your relationship last

[crisipicada]

Relationships are made beautiful when two people come together to share their love for one another. Often, due to fickle differences, the love shared gets lost. This article will teach young lovers on how to keep the flame of their relationship aglow.
1. Honesty

Be honest in your relationship. When two people, from different walks of life, come together to share their love, honesty is the only thing that keeps the relationship from falling apart. With honesty comes trust and with trust, love grows over time. Sowing the seeds of dishonesty will only lead to heartache and broken relationships.
2. Acceptance

Don’t hold impossibly high ideals, when it comes to assessing your partner. It will only lead to disappointment. You should understand that every individual is different and it is their imperfections that make them endearing to us over time. So what if your girlfriend hates playing video games, or thinks that your friends are stupid. Everyone is entitled to their opinion. Accept her for what she is and you will see how strong your relationship grows with time.
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3. Communicate

Most relationships go awry because both parties in the relationship assume their partner would automatically know what they are feeling. Instead, why don’t you try telling her how she makes you feel? Communication is the key to any relationship. You are not all-knowing, so without communicating your feelings to her, do not expect a lost-lasting relationship.
4. Compromise

Accept the fact that you are not perfect. The chances of fighting like cats and dogs are enormous. However, knowing when to accept your fault and when to compromise on a certain situation will take your relationship to a long way. A relationship is supposed to be fulfilling enough to complete you. If being in a particular relationship makes you happier than you have ever been, you need to stand by that relationship. If, however, being with her makes you compromise your own happiness, it is not worth the effort.
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5. Maintain sexual attraction

In a relationship, sex is beyond the physical gratification. It is the means by which two individuals express their feelings for each another. So, it is very important to be able to keep the passion ignited. Sex is the perfect way to tell your partner how she makes you feel. Not only does it bring two individuals closer, but also bridges any significant gap that might’ve cropped up over time. As the years go by, you'll keep revisiting and re-imagining the passion you have for each other. And if you keep at it, you'll have a sex life that transcends your relationship’s lack of newness and the physical changes that come with time.

A relationship is like a delicate flower. It needs tender and loving care to blossom. By following the above-mentioned methods, you are much closer to ensure that your relationship lasts a long time, even eternity.


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[red]

Good idea there but that depends on the attitude of both parties. Attitude plays important role in relationships.

[Edwin]

It is very important to be honest right from the beginning. Some pretend they are single, divorced, have an ex when in fact they are married. Some do not tell that they have children when they are single with children. Sometimes the truth comes out later, when it is more difficult to deal with, and sometimes it is a long time coming out, making it worse. Honesty will keep bigger problems from happening later.

I knew one person who had such high ideals that people didn't think she would ever get married. She was a lawyer with other high ideals as well, but she finally found someone who was no professional, but fit her ideas, and they now have two beautiful children.

Communication is important, because no the other person does not always know what you are thinking. This is especially important where there are language and cultural barriers.

Sexual attraction is very important, and yes it is more than just the sex act. The relationship does need special care to bloom and grow!

[crisipicada]

I do believe that from the very start, you must two really know your commitment. It needs to be tested if both of you are prepared for marriage. There are marriage today that you just got shock after they got married because they are not prepared yet. That is bad thing that happens to many marriages as you can see now. yes, wedding is great, but it is just a ceremony, being married to someone is a life time. That must be considered a lot. That is why when you are stil single, make use of it for the preparation for your season of marriage life. Commitment is important. Most of all, always nourished your relationship as we nourish our own life to live a good life. There might be sickness (problems) but there is always cure (solution) to it.

[Smiley]

I believe that you just nailed it Chrisi. There has to be a declaration of commitment made. Integrity and fidelity are very important.
Staying true to your better half should be something that you do because you feel anything less would be a huge loss.
If you have to make a conscious decision to be truthful to your mate,the relationship is already in trouble,being truthful and honorable are things that should happen automatically.
It hurts me when I hear about people that take advantage of someone who loves them. Some people just don`t seem to care about the heartache they cause,some even act like they think it`s funny.
In the world of Motorcycle Clubs,being untrustworthy is one of the worst situations to find yourself in,the world can be a very hostile place.

[Edwin]

How to make your relationship last? Feed your sweetheart chocolate candy! No, but I agree with you Crisi, tha commitment is of utmost importance! Also I agree with you Smiley that integrity and fidelity are of utmost importance as well. Get prepared, allow the Lord to help you find the right person, and then have a wonderful life!

[red]

What counts in making a happy marriage is not on how much compatibility you are but how you deal with incompatibility. We have different traits and unique individuals. In marriage this is what i learned there comes a time that each needs time and space not in bad way. So i learned that respect and accept your partner as a whole being works wonders in relationship. It means showing how much you love your partner too. As my hubbys favorite prayer says" God grant me the serenity to accept the things i cant change the courage to change the things i can, and the wisdom to know the difference."
It became my favorite prayer too.

[Edwin]

That is very good, Red, knowing what you can change, having the courage to change them, and knowing the difference. One of our twins who lives 3 hours away from here, has a husband that used to want his space; to be alone and either be away for have his wife away for a short period of time. I never understood that because I am not that way, but some people are. Some people get along fine as long as both are coming and going, but as soon as both of them are in the house together for extended periods of time, they need space. How you deal with incompatibility is important.

[crisipicada]

I say watch out for those that keep talking about their past relationship. Some people cant forget or they are having hang ups on their past gf/bf wife/hhsband and often choose those that they think have similarities of their past. They dont really want you or love you as you are. They just want to revive that past love they had. Beware of those frustrated pathetic freak.

Sometimes you need someone that you can count on. Sometimes you need an outlet of your feelings. I do not believe that those who are talking about their past with you do not really love you or just revive the past. For me, if my friend, let us say she is woman, shares me about her past in her bf, they that is good one that she can express her feelings. At this moment, she can be relieved.

If a man who is interested to you and want to share to you about his past, that is okay. At least he become honest with me. The best thing to do is to learn from the past. And also talk about those things and forget everything and start a new one. In Philippians 3:13 Brethren, I do not count myself to have apprehended; but one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind and reaching forward to those things which are ahead, .

When I talk to person, they way he or she talks to me will I know the deepest feeling she or he has. I am looking of the positive side of the person and try to figure out what is going in in her / his life. That is why, I do not judge the person whether he or she has bad pasts in life. I am thankful that I did not experience that. And as much as I can, i try to be of help and give godly counsel out of the scripture and understand the situation and what is the right thing to do. Sometimes, when I experience difficulties in life, I need to be alone and just really search my heart and the attitude that I have had. Then later on I will learn my hearts content and need to renew a good heart through cleansing through the word of God and asking forgiveness to the Lord.

[Edwin]

Yes, Crisi, it does sometimes help to talk about the past. It helps to heal. Then there is a time to move on, like the scripture you quoted, forgetting those things that are behind and reaching for those things that are ahead. Alone time with God is important where we search our hearts before Him, and seek for the renewal of our heart and our spirit, to bring it in line with the Spirit of God. Dealing with feelings is important, and seeking God through His word is very beneficial!