It is better to live in the corner of a housetop/attic, than to live with a brawling woman, Solomon said in Proverbs, but a good woman's value is far above rubies! A good woman is invaluable. There is no value that can be placed on a good woman. In a relationship that God is pleased with, the man and the woman give themselves to each other because they love one another, and it is what God wants them to do! God is not please when a man or a woman has to pay for sex! God is not pleased when sex is the result of blackmale. Sex is not something that should be bargained for, or bartered for. You do not have sex with your husband because he took out the garbage; you have sex with him because you love him, whether he took out the garbage or not. If he loves you, he will take out the garbage, and then your sex is based on something much more noble than the garbage! The guy buys the gal a nice meal, and maybe he spends money on her in others ways, buying her presents, jewelry, and flowers. Does that mean that she has to give him sex? No!
What you are saying Crisi, is that a loving husband is supposed to be there for moral support, to give comfort and encouragement, and to lift you up when you are down. To tell you, "Everything is going to be okay!" Many people thing they can buy their children with expensive gifts, and that is not what the children need, or are even looking for. They are looking for love and leadership. They are often looking for boundaries to be set; to be told "You can't do this, because if you do it will damage you!" A husband or a wife can't be bought by the other person. You can't say, "Look what I have done for you; look what I have bought you; you owe me some things, so now come through for me." No, that is the wrong approach! I love you, and you love me, so we do things for each other, and we are there for each other!