Marriage

[crisipicada]

According to Wikipedia, Marriage (also called matrimony or wedlock) is a social union or legal contract between people called spouses that establishes rights and obligations between the spouses, between the spouses and their children, and between the spouses and their in-laws.

Each of us, can interpret, as their own, what marriage is. Being Christian, marriage is a life time commitment, and no one can cut the union of marriage. Although, in the Bible, it was allowed because of being so hard headed but for the first place it is not allowed and not a plan of God to put off marriage.

Based on my observation, problems arise in marriage due to misunderstanding and non-commitment. It is therefore, both must understand their commitment and know the obligation of a wife and husband.

For those who are not married yet, what are your commitment? What do you want in a married life? For those who are married, what do you need to improve and make a better life to each other as couple?

What kind of marriage life you like?

Please share your thoughts so that we can understand what is your ideas and opinions and what your standard are. Your post is greatly appreciated!

[crisipicada]

It is my greatest desire to find a man who will be my husband who is committed to finding the will of God in his life.

Talking about marriage, it is not for kids but for the mature one. It is not for the boys but for the grown up. It is a life time commitment and no matter what happens, both must have commitment to stay for a life time. So, talking about marriage, what does it mean committed to finding someone who is also finding the will of God?

For Christian, it is the will of God, to marry also who are Christian. Be ye not unequally yoke with the unbeliever. For what communion the light and the darkness? Thus, it is the will of God to marry someone who is Christian.

It is the will of God not to touch the woman. While you are not married, it is not good to touch the woman or not into premarital sex.1 Corinthians 7 King James Version (KJV) states that," Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman." To avoid fornication, one must have his own wife, or her own husband. I Corinthians continued.... in verse 2 Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. and in 3 Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband.

for those who are not married or widow, if they cannot stay single let them married.. For In I COr 9 But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn.

What kind of marriage life I desire?

It is my desire to have kids at most three. I wanted to nurture them in the word of God and have a family that go to church every Sunday. I love to be committed to the Church where God place me with my family in the future. It is my desire to have garden, small plantation at the backyard, stayed home with the kids and to take care of them. i do not know much about having a business or I am not incline to it, but rather wanted to do cooking and doing house hold chores. I want to stay home while the head of the family, is making a living. I do not want to be a working mom or wife. In fact, if only I can resign my job right now because itmakes me stress really. Also, i love to see kids in the Sunday School class, thus, it is my greatest desire that if God bless me with children, I wanted them to be involved at church and desire to be faithful. Also I love music so, i want them to have talent in playing musical instruments so that they can dedicate that to the Lord and be used in the service of the Lord. Lots of things to share really.

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Our assistant Pastor got married last Friday at Lapasan Baptist Church. Their Pastor was Pastor Bruce Rice, an american Baptist Pastor who came over here in the Philippines. He is so committed to the Lord. He lives a life of no compromise and they are so blessed with their new church now in Dipolog.

At church, no one will get married in the church if both are not virgin. It must be holy and that is the will of God.

[crisipicada]

My friend, Girlie, got pregnant last January this year. She is so ashamed of me of what happened to her and ask forgiveness. Also, she told me how much pain she cause her mother and father of what happened to her.

Last week, when I finally move in the barrio, I found out that Juvie, Girlie's friend also pregnant and already 3 months, who happen to stay with me in the apartment when Girlie move to their house last February. I just knew it the next day i move back to the barrio on May 22, 2013.She told me in the text that she is pregnant and been so shy and ashamed of what happened to her. Sad to say that she said, the father who impregnated her is in Australia. That makes me wonder, that the guy is married. So sad, because as I visit their office last Friday, there is pain and shame on their face. Girlie and Juvie can't even look at me straight and refrain to talk to me.

Can you imagine getting married with a bag of baby in your tummy? It is really a shame, and not to be proud of. That makes life humiliated. It is my desire not to into it, I know I am not perfect, but God will help me.

It is really a good feeling to get married who is pure and no guilt. It is so happy moment that you enter into the next season of your life without a dot of sin of premarital sex.

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Thanks for this topic crisi. I can't say i have nothing to ask for more coz i have lots still asking to God everyday. Me and my husband constantly communicating on phone when at work and I make sure dinner served by 7pm so we can have family time and more time cuddling on bed coz usually get tired from work. Petty illnesses can ruin the happy mood of the family esp i am a kinda of freak when a family member is sick. So, I ask God to always bless us with good health, long life for me and my husband. When you are half past century age you have to be careful on health. Taking care of your body is very important eat and rest should be a balance. It is a must coz it helps your mind at peace. I just want to spend long time with my hubby so I pray for long life. Feels good when all family united to praise God and study His words everyday. As for improvement, I think we should work more on parenting coz our eldest is growing fast and lots can influence her when she is not in our home. And work harder to earn more money. Money plays vital role on family but as long as we entrust everything to God and seek Him first everything will be alright.

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I got pregnant of five months during my wedding. Pregnancy was planned ahead due to age lol. Me and my husband went to our Pastor when we first met and asked blessing of our intentions to get married so we had that pre wed type and also engagement same time at church. The wedding was long process of preparations (it was a headache too). I wanted civil to save money but my hubby honored and love me that much that he wanted it at church. Anyway, so I gave birth of our eldest daughter and got engaged and married same year! That year was phenomenal for me.
Marriage works in different people it is how you make it work with God's blessings.

[crisipicada]

I love to see couples who stick together despite many differences and problems. It is my ideal family to stay together. Since I came from a broken family, it is my prayer to have a loving and strong family. And of course to all of us here.

[Edwin]

I have seen various quotes about this. I may get some of them wrong. One is, "The family who prays together, stays together." I think that is the most common one. Also, "The family that has devotions together stays together." I think the most common one is "The family who prays together stays together. Also one might be, "The family who attends church together stays together." Basically the family that honors God stays together.

There are differences and problems in every family I think, but some are determined to stay together, and with God's help that is possible, or probable! It is a commitment, and the couple needs to be commited to each other, and whatever happens they stay together!

[mystic]

I think I am committed enough to get married. Despite it's not in my horizons now, I would like the most to have a family. It must be stable, secure, committed, loving, no games. Differences are normal, but they don't have to undermine the relation. One should accept the other even if the ideas are sometimes different, because respect should always be at the foundation of the relation. And love is not something to play with. It should be like a gift from God: indubitable, abundant

I envision marriage as the confluence of three factors: man, woman, environment. When this trinity is in accordance, it is in communion with God. I would chose only a God-fearing woman, because I like to live in an ancient way, with old values and connected with God.

I would like to have some children, maybe 2, dunno. In today society, I think it is important that both parents work, to make sure that nothing will be missing. Also, with the hardship of the crisis, work is not something that is always certain. So, both parents have the responsibility to help each other and keep the family safe.

I am not career oriented. This means that I don't live for the career, but I just work to survive. My real desire is to have a family as the first thing. So, I hope I don't find a career woman (as strange it might seem, the do exist), because I don't want to find myself fighting with her career.

I have a lot to transmit to my children, so I hope we will all blessed.

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Hey Mystic...maybe you and Crisi hook up together...seems like you two matches... he he he he.....anybody here agree with me?