by mystic » Tue Apr 15, 2014 5:19 am
Here we say, when somebody is single, that there might be two reasons: either he/she has some issue or he/she is too selective. Are there any other reasons?
Perhaps, marrying somebody who was not known to you, who is not from your town, can be a real challenge. You can expect how somebody in your town thinks, but you cannot predict how a person from another country will react, or if there is some hidden agenda. So, it's not bad to have a good filter, to avoid future surprises.
It wouldn't be bad to talk in the local community, in the church, to have peace of mind and find the really worthy persons. The community can be the best help and eyes in an unknown country. This is also a double direction advice. Filipinas should also try to know about their future environment. If a man behaves well, talks well to her parents, etc., this still does not give the picture of how this person is. You have to assess the person in his/her environment, not outside of it.
"The real opposite of love is not hate, but indifference" (Rabbi Adin Steinsaltz)