"Why are you not married yet"?

[crisipicada]

While we had a reunion with my batchmate at the regional office, applying for promotion, most of them asked me "My, why? Are you not married yet?

This is common to me, even when I am home, many of the people keep on asking me such question. I politely answered, "I have not found the right one for me yet, I thought I was".

There are many reasons and varied reasons why I am not yet married, or why there are many young professional women, beautiful and gorgeous filipina who are not married yet.

Each of us, have different culture, family upbringing, education, religion, different challenges in life that we have been through that what we become. I am a Baptist Christian, learn and desire or being expose to the teaching 'God's Perfect Mate', or 'Searching for God's Will'. In my search, fell in love with men whom they profess to be Christian, but only time can tell as what they believe is true. Well, I accept that I have FEARS/hurt in the past that make me coward to fully trust someone. Not only that , because I am a product of a broken family, a family full of bitterness, anger and sadness. To my desire to find the RIGHT one, I ended up disappointed and frustrated. Because, I do not want that happen to me as my parents did.

I traveled a life that is sorrowful, full of hurt and sadness, full of disappointments. I believe it is not only me, but also those who are there, experienced such heartaches. I feel so sorry about it, but, in the end, as Christian, I believe, that we put our trust in Christ, our Lord. That in time comes, there is that name like "Jesus" who will accept us of who we are, our hurts and problems, of who we now. And the missing piece of rib, will complete our life, and we will be happy in the end.

Lastly, we can only be happy as we obey Him, coz we disobey, ends with miserable life.

[cheryz]

sad to know that crisi..
maybe i could say i can relate a little from your life story..
i can feel the sadness in you just like me before.. i thought i was loved by someone special to me but in the end we end up
i just caught him and started on that day we fought every each day of our lives, love was fading and then we separated.
then that day i started also i didnt trust anyone, i feel there gonna hurt me if i will learn to love again..
maybe the pain cant heal me now but im still hoping i can trust man again.
i wish you and me someday we could find the right man to whom we can trust more than we ever wanted.

[m&m]

sad to know that crisi..
maybe i could say i can relate a little from your life story..
i can feel the sadness in you just like me before.. i thought i was loved by someone special to me but in the end we end up
i just caught him and started on that day we fought every each day of our lives, love was fading and then we separated.
then that day i started also i didnt trust anyone, i feel there gonna hurt me if i will learn to love again..
maybe the pain cant heal me now but im still hoping i can trust man again.
i wish you and me someday we could find the right man to whom we can trust more than we ever wanted.

According to my readings, these kinds of experiences are part of the past and is not process in the present. Because according to studies, all experience is stored in the brain and as we grow, it wil be back again. the good thing is that we can turn it off like the negative things, that the guy will do to us again because that what our father has done.

That is what we call, we are NOT OK. It takes positive things to be able to recover on this mindset. It is easy but I hope I will be able to reserve my mind as it affects my feelings. Hope you too,cheryz

[angel]

as a single parent we can make life go on... just like me im not that kind of a woman to be married easily because im pregnant by someone whom you didnt really sure that he is love you as you love him or even just a mistake you got pregnant not at the right time, i was deepest think of it why i didnt married? for me, im still young and i accept it is a mistake to get pregnant but that was happen and i didnt regret it because the father of it doesnt deserve to be love.

[m&m]

as a single parent we can make life go on... just like me im not that kind of a woman to be married easily because im pregnant by someone whom you didnt really sure that he is love you as you love him or even just a mistake you got pregnant not at the right time, i was deepest think of it why i didnt married? for me, im still young and i accept it is a mistake to get pregnant but that was happen and i didnt regret it because the father of it doesnt deserve to be love.

Sorry to hear that the father of your child does not deserve to be loved. I know and I understand how you feel because my elder sister was single parent too and the father of the son did not care to provide for the food of the child. Since, we grow in a Christian home, we pray to God how to rare that child and provide for his needs. And now the boy is already 12 years old and in grade 8 already and he is smart. Wow, he is not in cream class where i study high school and got top 6 in their class last grade 7. God is so good, and we brought him in church and told him not to give grudges in his heart after that he is not with his father. So he is thankful that we love him even without a father who cared. But now he met his dad.