Are You Capable of Commitment?

[crisipicada]

Hello everyone.
I would like to ask those divorced or separated men, who have been into failed marriages. In your situation right now, are you capable of commitment after those issues and problems that you have been through in the past?

I would like to raise these questions or ask yourself if these are true:

1. Did you cheat your ex-wife?
2. Did you treat her bad,verbal, physical and mental abusive to her?
3. Did you had substance abuse, drugs and alcohol, gambling problems, pornography addiction, equates commitment with a jail sentence.If this guy experience these, this guy will not be able to commit and you won't be the one to change him.
4. Have you healed yourself and move on with your past relationship? If you are, then are you committed to finding the right one and be committed to her?
5. I believe that if you were committed before, you will be committed the next around, are you ?
6. Have you been to many issues in life and resolve them and make right things in resolving issues in marriage?

Are you marraige minded person? If you do, I hope you make a commitment right now of finding the right one.

[red]

I think everyone is capable of commitment. Each of us has unique way of handling situations.

[m&m]

I think everyone is capable of commitment. Each of us has unique way of handling situations.

That is true, Red. There are things why a woman is committed to her husband even if the husband cheated. I have observed that in our country. Like, because of the children and for the sake of children.

I ask my mother this question: Ma, when papa beat you or try to hurt you, did you still want to stay with him? Or did you have changed your mind, why you marry him? And when you found out in marriage, that papa was smoking a lot and drinking wine, have you had that thought to separate? Mama said, for the sake of children, she tries to stay. And to the point papa said to mama, to get away from home, they she did. Maybe there are many issues that I do not know but most of the time, when the woman's emotional need is compromise, then she be sad and try to be happy and to live a life away from it because the woman wants to go on with life or else she will die. That is also i experienced in life. maybe there are things to change in ones attitude and life without me. And also, I can serve someone more in friendship because in friendship you do not need to be emotionally attach to person and so, yu can pray to him/her.

Just my idea and experience i wanted to share, anyway.