Adultery in Remarriage

[crisipicada]

I wanted to share this thread I read. It speaks about getting married for the second time by the divorce person? What do you think of this and how does it affects you as a person? Does it opens your mind and gives you enlightenment and do what is right thing to do? Your comments is highly appreciated.

This is the main reason why my first online relationship did not become successful. He is not biblically divorce....we remain friends until now and praying that by His grace and God's goodness eventually fall on us, 2 Cor. 5:17 17 "Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation.[a] The old has passed away; behold, the new has come.", we are holding on that, we let God do the rest for us.

Jesus makes it clear that adultery occurs in remarriage. This is stated clearly in the following passages:

"whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery." (Matt. 5:32);

"whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery" (Matt. 19:9);

"Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against her. And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery." (Mark. 10:11,12);

"Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery." (Lk. 16:18);

"So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man." (Rom. 7:3)

The term adultery is to have unlawful intercourse with another's wife.

Webster's New Collegiate Dictionary also gives only one definition for the word adultery: "Voluntary sexual intercourse between a married man and someone other than his wife or between a married woman and someone other than her husband."

Jesus added to this and stated that a man can commit the sin of adultery in the fantasy of his mind without the physical act taking place. Jesus said that for a man to desire in his mind to have sexual relations with another woman, that man commits adultery in his heart. Mt. 5:28: "But I say unto you, that whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart." According to the definition for the Greek word for adultery that Jesus used, the act or action that is adultery in remarriage is voluntary sexual intercourse with a person whose first husband or wife is still alive. Adultery is not divorce, adulterating the marriage, nor the one time act of remarriage. Adultery is the sexual relations of the remarried couple the first time, and every time thereafter.

The significance of the sin of adultery in remarriage is that divorce does not end a person's first marriage! God has joined the husband and wife together as one. "And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.'" Matt. 19:4-6. Man's civil action of divorce in the court system of this earth, does not end the "one flesh and one spirit" aspect of the marriage that God has joined together.

Notes QT 05/25/13

May God guide and bless us all!Amen.

[mystic]

Adultery/adulteration does not end with man and woman. The Bible gives many examples. One is clothing. Do you check before buying that a dress does not mix cotton with wool, or any other combination? Combinations are adulteration. Let's not mention synthetic fibers... they are chemical and come out of forbidden copulations/mixes.

It seems clear that the Bible suggests to live in a very raw way, discarding every form of progress. But one realizes at once that there is something wrong here. Interpretation? Context? I would add, probably it's just a wrong translation.

[jadegil6]

I think that just the fact that you are asking about it suggests you have already made up your mind as to what you think is right.
If you think you can find a male who has never lusted after a woman, then is either a gay, or too young to have reached puberty.

[cheryz]

i just want to add to this topic ive just read.

Marriage was the first institution established by God in the book of Genesis, chapter 2. It is a holy covenant that symbolizes the relationship between Christ and his Bride, or the Body of Christ. Most Bible-based Christian faiths teach that divorce is to be seen only as a last resort after every possible effort toward reconciliation has failed. Just as the Bible teaches us to enter into marriage carefully and reverently, divorce is to be avoided at all costs. Honoring and upholding the marriage vows brings honor and glory to God.

Current Perspectives

Sadly, divorce and remarriage are widespread realities in the body of Christ today. Many Christians have questions about divorce and remarriage. Generally speaking, Christians tend to fall into one of four positions on this controversial issue:

Position 1: No Divorce - No Remarriage
Marriage is a covenant agreement, meant for life, therefore it must not be broken under any circumstance; remarriage further violates the covenant and therefore is not permissible.

Position 2: Divorce - But No Remarriage
Divorce, though not God's desire, is sometimes the only alternative when all else has failed. The divorced person must remain unmarried for life thereafter.

Position 3: Divorce - But Remarriage Only In Certain Situations
Divorce, though not God's desire, is sometimes unavoidable. If the grounds for the divorce are biblical, the divorced person can remarry, but only to a believer.

Position 4: Divorce - Remarriage
Divorce, though not God's desire, is also not the unforgivable sin. Regardless of the circumstances, all divorced persons who have repented, should be forgiven and allowed to remarry.

The following study attempts to answer from a biblical perspective some of the most frequently asked questions about divorce and remarriage among Christians. I would like to credit Pastor Ben Reid of True Oak Fellowship and Pastor Danny Hodges of Calvary Chapel St. Petersburg, whose teachings inspired and influenced these interpretations of Scripture pertaining to divorce and remarriage.
Q1 - I am a Christian, but my spouse is not. Should I divorce my unbelieving spouse and try to find a believer to marry?

No. If your unbelieving spouse wants to be married to you, stay faithful to your marriage. Your unsaved spouse needs your continued Christian witness and may likely be won to Christ by your godly example.

1 Corinthians 7:12-13
To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her. And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him.

1 Peter 3:1-2
Wives, in the same way be submissive to your husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives.

Q2 - I am a Christian, but my spouse, who is not a believer, has left me and filed for divorce. What should I do?

If at all possible, seek to restore the marriage. If reconciliation is not possible, you are not obligated to remain in this marriage.

1 Corinthians 7:15-16
But if the unbeliever leaves, let him do so. A believing man or woman is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace. How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or, how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?

Q3 - What are biblical reasons or grounds for divorce?

The Bible suggests that “marital unfaithfulness” is the only scriptural reason that warrants God’s permission for divorce and remarriage. Many different interpretations exist among Christian teachings as to the exact definition of "marital unfaithfulness." The Greek word for marital unfaithfulness found in Matthew 5:32 and Matthew 19:9 translates to mean any form of sexual immorality including adultery, prostitution, fornication, pornography, and incest. Since the sexual union is such a crucial part of the marriage covenant, breaking that bond seems to be a permissible, biblical grounds for divorce.

Matthew 5:32
But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, causes her to become an adulteress, and anyone who marries the divorced woman commits adultery.

Matthew 19:9
I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, and marries another woman commits adultery.

[lyrehc]

Crisi what will you think happen if a man punch her wife everyday and her wife was a christian and was afraid she will commit adultery by the phases you said, will she stay with his husband or will she leave???

if it happens you have a heart to conduct adultery you should see the situation first, what if there is no love at all...will you stay or will you leave??

is it right or is it wrong to to remarry a married man or woman....Think twice....

[angel]

i agree to you sissy lyrech
great idea fablous! clap clap clap
thats called LOVE.. if you suffer to your husband or wife (example:. (man) not contented with you (woman) same as man) what would you do? just leave him / her! because it is not love at all! (example: if man hurts her wife and with woman nagging always his husband)
thats only my opinion!!

[mystic]

Lyrec and Angel, those are worthy thoughts before marriage. Commitment is commitment. It is too easy to say to the other, "I don't love you", and destroy the marriage and the family. That's a selfish act that might have severe consequences.

I am one of those who heard from his ex the famous sentence, "I don't love you". What a pity that she decided to kidnap my son. Now she is sought for 4 years prison. Now, I had a chance to get my son back. And now I am charged with 8 years prison. The difference in years is just how determined your country is to prosecute such crimes and usually different countries do not recognize each other, so you easily end up in situations like this. Anyway, who wins? I didn't want a situation like that, but once you are in... you cannot get out. So... think twice before choosing your mate. You never know what might happen. And better you be consistent with your commitment.

[crisipicada]

Crisi what will you think happen if a man punch her wife everyday and her wife was a christian and was afraid she will commit adultery by the phases you said, will she stay with his husband or will she leave???

That is so scary that the husband punch his wife. I have heard that and even observe that. My parents got separated for 14 years. One reason is that my father beat my mother, and maybe there are reasons why the husband beat the wife. But remember, wife must be loved and cared so with the husband.

For me, i do not believe in divorce. If that is the case that my future husband will beat me, just in case, then I need to get away from him and pray hoping he will change and I believe God will always change hearts. I wont marry again because it is my commitment to my future husband. I will always love him.

if it happens you have a heart to conduct adultery you should see the situation first, what if there is no love at all...will you stay or will you leave??It is true that feelings will go, as I have noticed and observed from couples. But remember, the more we grow older, the love must be more sweeter. That is why it is important to nourish the relationship. You must know how to develop love to your partner, husband or wife. It needs psychology. It needs to know what makes her or him happy while you were in dating before get married. Most couple, when they are married, they take forgranted their wife or husband anymore how they treat their partner while they were not married yet. In marriage, it needs to be love triangle. Husband, wife, and the Lord Jesus Christ. If there is no God in your relationship, your family will be in danger. It always getting rid of selfishness. It is hard for me to explain because I have not been married so I just observe. Just like my elder sister, I saw her late husband, he slapped my sister's face back and fort, in front of me when i was 12 years old. It was so scary. Welll at that time he was not yet Christian i guess

is it right or is it wrong to to remarry a married man or woman....Think twice....

[crisipicada]

Lyrec and Angel, those are worthy thoughts before marriage. Commitment is commitment. It is too easy to say to the other, "I don't love you", and destroy the marriage and the family. That's a selfish act that might have severe consequences.

I am one of those who heard from his ex the famous sentence, "I don't love you". What a pity that she decided to kidnap my son. Now she is sought for 4 years prison. Now, I had a chance to get my son back. And now I am charged with 8 years prison. The difference in years is just how determined your country is to prosecute such crimes and usually different countries do not recognize each other, so you easily end up in situations like this. Anyway, who wins? I didn't want a situation like that, but once you are in... you cannot get out. So... think twice before choosing your mate. You never know what might happen. And better you be consistent with your commitment.

It is true that it is important to think, not only twice, but a million times. In fact, it is important that not only we think but we pray.

There are marriage who have been destroy or no commitment at all because they have hidden agenda. And if their agenda did not work, so they quit with their relationship. And many also, have this hidden agenda to get into what they want and later on forget the person whom they said "I Love You".

In every action, their is corresponding reaction, as law of science would say. In the Scripture or Bible, it says, we reap what we saw, or what you have planted, you will harvest in due time. There are actions that we make that, that is contrary to the Bible, like, getting into sex before marriage, getting into relationship that has no commitment, or some, just have fun. It is important to really search the heart. For sure all of us wanted to have a happy family, happy future, but I realize that it needs prayers. And also it needs to be sincere. There are people or most of men outthere are good at that. They play feelings with women, (maybe women are doing this also) and later on when they get what they want, they forget the woman, or vice versa.

For me, it is my prayer that when I get married, I marry because I love the person not because I want to work or go to other places. I know that the Lord is working in our own hearts. So even we wanted to think more and more before getting into marriage but it is not enough, it needs to pray, ask the Lord in prayer, read the Bible for His answer to us, search our hearts if there is peace and fulfillment, then see if people around you are happy for your relationship, if both sides are sharing to their family about their relationshp so that they can advise.

It is just so sad that other people try to hide their relationship to their family and not really proud of.

At this moment of time, I believe that it is not too late to start all over again. In fact, I believe, that this is the consequence of our actions. We cannot blame others or even God. Sometimes, we think, we are able to plan our life, but the fact that we can't. We need the Lord to guide us always. Pray, read His word the Bible, submit to His will. Ask for reassurance of His love and peace and He has been waiting for us all the time to come to Him for His loving hand is always open to receive us. Hope that of all your trials in life, you will be able to overcome all.