I have been reading the book "I am ok, you are ok". It talks about a person as a whole, from little baby, to adult and also parents.
I realize how much family upbringing affects and person or children in their lives. I also read that, based on studies, all the experienced of a person from childhood is being saved to the brain of the person, and he will bring that back when he grows. It also speak about why children cannot decide what is right to do when his parents is talking different from what parents is doing. IT gives confusion to children.
Not only that, those things that parents inculcated in the mind of the children will be in his mind, negative or positive. On my part, my father told us or to me personally that "Do not trust fully to person" because there is always behind in the persons back that that is not true. In this case, I have been bringing this to my life. And that is true. It is hard for me to trust person unless I know that he is christian, and even the person is christian, wherein i already gain trust to him or her, in the end, when he or she fails, that makes the person not "OK" at all.
A lot of things that makes the child as he grows. parents has a very big role in the life of children.
I did not finish reading this book, and since it is based on studies and it also true to what I experience, I realize that it is very important to grow spiritually above all. Because, there are things that can not be explained by human mind, like, coping bad situation. It is always the help of the Holy Spirit that we can still ok despite many bad situation.
I will share more as soon as I read more on this book