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Even the most intellectual person in the world got divorced and end up unsuccessful marriage.Kind of frustrating to see this and is it dangerous to date when feeling desperate? My mom and dad was divorced and have their own family later. But still did not work when they have their second wife or husband. And my father was married trice and end up single. I kind of having fear to be like that and i am so much careful looking someone not to such experience in life. Why marriage end up divorce?

There are may reasons why a marriage could end up in divorce.There are a thousand scenarios some valid,some trivial. To ask what the reason is does not take into account the many factors that make each marriage unique.

Again, I believe that we have the heart to get married and settle down for a life time. Someone that we can be together and stick together in good times and in bad times. Everyone needs someone to be with because it feels so incomplete without someone in life. Do you agree with me?

But then, there are people who got married once and got divorce or separated. Others, have been twice married but then end up divorce and they feel sorry about it and try to figure out what is really the mistake about the relationship. At first, you really feel in love, happy, joyful and seems he or she is your world. But later, life becomes sour. It is just like that, and keeps on turning up and down with the other relationship. And believe me, it is tiring and frustrating too when your marriage life becomes rocky and hurtful. Of course, there are positive aspect in life too. Like she might be thoughtful, supportive, poetic, but negative aspect is extremely high that many times leads to breakup the relationship. Of course, again, we ask, why would we enter such relationship if only we knew it at first end up miserable? And later on, we have doubts if he or she loves us or if we can trust him or her because our minds create confusion and doubt because of what we have observed and noticed along the way?

Also, we heard some stories that a woman who have been neglected by parents love and attention because they are busy with their making a living such as jobs and business. Later on a woman finds someone who can fill the emptiness of her heart and fall in love with the guy. And they got married but later on in life as married couple, the husband cannot provide what the life of the woman who has been living a life of abundance when her parents were busy making a living to support her. And that makes the woman miserable because of this. And got separated.

There are really many issues and scenarios in life why married couple got separated. Behind the subconscious mind of the person, why he or she is doing such thing for the other, is important to fully know. In other word, people got divorce because they do not know each other more. I learn in life that in different aspect in life, before getting married, it is important to talk about it and agree with that. Because, looking someone or marrying someone with different culture is important to comprehend. Also, going back to, seeking the Kingdom of God and His righteousness, as the word of the Lord says, all these things shall be added unto you.

When your married its started to know the differences for both of you. Even little things ends up to big misunderstanding especially if both have pride. Some cases incompatible and out of time.

That is true. It is because our mind was wired to be an individual one. Unless we adjust in ourselves and try to work out to work as one person, there will always be crashes in marriage. Agreement is very important. Unless both will agree, they will always disagree and go in the other and opposite direction. But on the other hand, if the wife knew her role to be submissive to the husband unto the Lord, then I believe it will work the marriage.

Because, they marry for the wrong reason. Not only that, they get married because they "feel" so in love.

Smiley wrote:There are may reasons why a marriage could end up in divorce.There are a thousand scenarios some valid,some trivial. To ask what the reason is does not take into account the many factors that make each marriage unique.

Yeah you got it Smiley its right many reasons...
Instead i will inspire you to find woman you gonna love until forever, both Must have Respect, Love, Faithful, Honesty, Laugh, Enjoy, embrace the differences, Understanding and work.

Marriage is compose of trust,love and understanding if one of this is missing the marriage can break apart..but as you can see sometime couple do love each other but dont trust, there is love but no understanding.. In some scenario marriage can lead to divorce because the other person stop on trusting the other but somewhere love is still there but pride take everything from a relationship..if you want a happy life the best way to have a strong foundation of marriage is to have have faith in God that he may lead you to your future partner..let the will of the Lord be done to your life stop trusting your self and trust God to everything for your life.

crisipicada wrote:Because, they marry for the wrong reason. Not only that, they get married because they "feel" so in love.

This is the one reason why young people separated in the middle ages. They feel so inlove but when the difficult time happens no one is strong enough to fight to each other. its sad but definitely true.

I really appreciate men who are so kind and caring. One who wants me to grow and what I wanted to be. At the same time, i am looking forward for what the other what they want to be. It is just that both are working as a team for the growth of relationship. One thing I am afraid of is when you learn to love the person and you just figure out it wont work in the future. Just so scary.