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Learning to Forgive - Forgiveness is Not Inherent

Learning to forgive implies that forgiveness is a learned process, not an automatic response. Our sinful nature (our flesh) has a high resistance to laying offenses aside. It prefers to take on an offense and use the energy that the offense brings with it, in every negative way. Every part of our un-renewed mind, our carnal mind, has a preference to take on an offense and a propensity to hold grudges, and seek its own sense of justice. Within the carnal mind, retaliation is most often not an option, but rather it's a driving force, it has to get even! Our flesh, unrenewed, unbridled, lacking illumination and understanding, prefers to be judge, jury, and executioner of the offender even when that offender is our own self.

Learning to forgive - Christ Based
Learning to forgive can only be fully achieved after we have accepted Jesus Christ as our Lord and Savior, otherwise we are simply acting according to our flesh. While we can learn to "forgive and forget" on a carnal level, as a good deed, but true forgiveness comes from the Spirit of Christ within us. Until our mind is renewed, until we are enlightened by His Holy Spirit, there remains a resistance, an enmity between us and God that will govern our every decision (Romans 12:2, Titus 3:3-5).

Learning to forgive begins with understanding what God says about forgiveness in the Bible. Part of our learning process includes becoming aware that our flesh is truly hostile to God, must be brought under authority, and re-trained. Our "old man" must be put off and a "new man" must be put on (Ephesians 4:22, 24; Colossians 3:10-25). According to Scripture, we are the ones who must put off the old and learn of God and choose His ways. Thankfully we are not left alone to make decisions on our own because God, our Father, has sent His Spirit to help us. The Spirit dwells within us and teaches us (John 14:26). God has also given us His infallible Word, the Bible to teach us how to forgive.

its really hard to forgive if someone is the one you love its too painful, but easy to say i forgive you but deep inside its really hurt you, and depends on the situation you may encounter.

its christmas we have to learn to forgive the people who hurt us, make your christmas merry , joyful, and peaceful towards other. its a great feeling if you forgive the one who hurt you, learn to accept that they are not perfect they made mistake, but be sure that they honest and sincerely says sorry and do good reasons to forgive them. whatever mistakes they commit they only human so be forgiving this christmas. be happy.

merry christmas, forgive and forget. peace to all ive hurt. i hope and pray for your forgiveness. lets start over and have a peaceful mind it christmas time learn to forgive to the one who hurt you.

thats right angel, ill forgive you now you have so many mistakes to me i dont even count it! maybe i dont mention all of it coz it might reveal your personality! just joking angel you know i love you friend. merry christmas.

“The Paradoxical Commandments

People are illogical, unreasonable, and self-centered.
Love them anyway.

If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives.
Do good anyway.

If you are successful, you will win false friends and true enemies.
Succeed anyway.

The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow.
Do good anyway.

Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable.
Be honest and frank anyway.

The biggest men and women with the biggest ideas can be shot down by the smallest men and women with the smallest minds.
Think big anyway.

People favor underdogs but follow only top dogs.
Fight for a few underdogs anyway.

What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight.
Build anyway.

People really need help but may attack you if you do help them.
Help people anyway.

Give the world the best you have and you'll get kicked in the teeth.
Give the world the best you have anyway.”

by; Kent M. Keith, The Silent Revolution: Dynamic Leadership in the Student Council

forgive those who wrong you and you will be forgiven, you can't just tell it, if your heart doesn't release that forgiveness its kipping then there is no forgiveness at all. you must forgive with all your heart..saying i forgive you is not a hard thing to do but letting go of that pain that people cause you is harder to let go so if you forgive others forgive them with all your hearts an d you will receive the peace of your life that bring happiness and joy.

Forgiving yourself can be much harder than forgiving someone else. When you're carrying around a sense of blame for something that has happened in the past, this bundle of negativity burrowing deep into yourself can cause a never-ending, pervasive sense of unhappiness. Forgiving yourself is an important act of moving forward and releasing yourself from the past. It's also a way of protecting your health and general well-being. Here are some suggestions on how to forgive yourself.