There are different ways, Susan. My Mom's cousin was in the Philippines during World War II, and he was familiar with it from that, so when his wife died of cancer, he just went over there, got acquainted, married her, brought her home, and they lived happily ever after until he died of cancer, and then I am sad to say that his daughter did not treat the poor woman well, nor their young child. My friend found his filipina on Cherry Blossoms, and it has been a very happy marrige after about 8 years so far. Many find their loves on the internet thought e-mail and chat. This forum is a great place to be because it allows you to get to know how people think. The Bible says, "Out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh, so after a while of reading what people write you can know what is in their hearts. Some are introduced by family and friends who know the people, and that is a good way, because if someone knows someone before then they can recommend them, and maybe there is less risk of being taken advantage of. If you don't have a profile on jaderune.com, then get hold of Sir Michael to get one. All the instructions are on the first page you go to when you come here. That should help.