MissyMae, you bring up some very good points! Creating the right relationship makes sense. We, a number of us on this site, have discussed the idea of only one person being the right one, and most of us will agree that there is not necessarily one right person, but there are a number, and even many right possibilities. Creating the right relationship suggested being the right person for the other person, and treating others as you would want to be treated. Then, the relationship will take care of itself. Longevity is important. It is not as important how much of a love burst you have at first, but more important is how long your love lasts. We are in it for the long haul, huh, and not for the short term?
No one needs or wants someone else to take advantage of their weaknesses. That does, unfortunately happen, and we all know the ways that happens, and it is sad. I never thought about someone taking advantage of someone elses strengths, but I guess that could happen as well. We all want to be appreciated for the person that we are. The most important is to be true to ourselves, and then be true to others as well. Be ourselves. Let the other person see who you are, and don't pretend to be someone else, so that when the other person is falling in love with you, they are falling in love with the real you! There is nothing better than for you to be able to be comfortable and be yourself, and then have the other person be comfortable and be him/her self as well.