How Can I Decide?

[Edwin]

Yes, Crisi, it is a hard decision sometimes whether to tell the truth, and maybe suffer loss because of that, or to be honest and maybe lose that position. We believe it is always best to tell the truth and let God reward us, even if it does cost us temporarily! Just think about Joseph in the Old Testiment, how God rewarded him for being honest and having integrity. He refused to compromise and have sex with the wife of his superior. She played like he attempted to rape her after he refused to have sex with her. It cost him jail time, but in the end he became an important leader with authority in Egypt because God promoted him. He was the kind of person he was supposed to be before God!

[crisipicada]

To be honest, if we rely on our own understanding and just depend on the circumstances, we always fall. I need someone that would advise me godly wisdom. I have accountability partner too, I always join my mother and sisters and ask wisdom from them. At this time, they can pray also for me. In fact my sister Cai call me last Wednesday (Pastor's wife), invited me to attend to their prayer vigil. Since I cannot go there, she said, they have been praying for me for a future husband. I am thankful for that, and that is the best thing to do.

[Edwin]

Your mother, Crisi, and your sisters are good advisors for you! It is wonderful that they are willing to pray for you. We all need prayer for our problems and our needs!

[crisipicada]

How can I decide? someone must have figured out what kind of person he or she wants to be with. Just like riding a public vehicle, you must know where the bus going to, or else the bus will take you anywhere and sometimes, it will lead you to dangerous places. Be very exact and pray what are the qualities you want your future spouse to be.

For me, someone who is mature Christian is what I am looking for. Someone who wants to live a godly life and no compromise. Someone who wont beat me or punch me. Why? Because I saw how my late father fight with my mother. They are hurting physically and that i do not like it.

[Edwin]

Yes, Crisi, someone who wants to live a godly life is best with no compromising! You don't need someone who will beat or punch you! Our youngest daughter was married three times, and each one of them were abusive. The first and father of her children would break holes all through the house! I heard once he found a 2 by 4 wall stud, and that was a little hard on his fist. He would threaten to kill, and even the kids were afraid that he might kill all of them. The second husband turned out much the same, beating one of their cats to death because he was mad at them, and well as doing other bad things. The third one almost beat her to death, and was really trying to kill her, doing her body a lot of damage. Yes, pray for the one that you want who will treat you well!

[crisipicada]

I do not understand what is green lights and red lights as far as dating is concerned. Until such time that my Sunday School teacher taught us about what are the things to consider and not consider a person to be your life time partner. She let us draw lines and make three columns and then what are the attributes that you like in a person and what are the RED and GREEN lights to consider.

At this point, we will know if he or she is the one you are looking for. For Christian, it is important to look for Christian, for we must be equally yoke with the unbeliever. A lot of people today claim to be Christian but do not live by it. They claim to be but do not heartily follow or desire what God wants them to do. I for one have difficulty living in obedience to God,that is why it is important to confess and ask forgiveness for all our sins and renew a pure heart. That is why we must not condemn someone because in due time, God will change someone's heart.

[Edwin]

Crisi, what you said reminds me of a game that we play with the kids. I don't remember whether the teachers played it with us when I was in elementary school, but I have seen it played a lot, especially in physical education classes, and the kids find it a lot of fun. You call out Green light, and the kids walk fast, then you quickly say Red light, and if anyone takes even one stop further they are out. You keep doing that until you have eliminated all but one child and that child is the winner.

That is good; listing what you would like/expect in a person. The Red lights would be what would make you stop rather than proceeding. I have heard them also called red flags, which are warning signals. If you are aware of a certain behavior, and you see that, it might be a good idea to stop, rather than proceeding and then getting hurt. Other things would tell you that it is okay to keep going, but you always proceed with caution. Many people have the red flags and they do ignore them, causing them to be hurt after a period of time. They say hind sight is 20/20, meaning you can look back and understand. It is better if you can understand as you are proceeding, so that you recognize the red flags and stop in time to avoid damage.

Crisi, anyone who says that they don't have difficulty in living in obedience to God is not honest. We all have trouble living in obedience to God, and all of us must continually ask for God's forgiveness for our sins, and ask Him to forgive us and help us. We all need help to have a right spirit renewed in us, and to have a pure heart. God accepts the person who prays, "God be merciful to me a sinner," rather than the person who prays with himself/herself about how good he or she is. None of us is good. Only God is good, and He can help us if we will allow Him to do that!

[crisipicada]

Crisi, what you said reminds me of a game that we play with the kids. I don't remember whether the teachers played it with us when I was in elementary school, but I have seen it played a lot, especially in physical education classes, and the kids find it a lot of fun. You call out Green light, and the kids walk fast, then you quickly say Red light, and if anyone takes even one stop further they are out. You keep doing that until you have eliminated all but one child and that child is the winner.

That is good; listing what you would like/expect in a person. The Red lights would be what would make you stop rather than proceeding. I have heard them also called red flags, which are warning signals. If you are aware of a certain behavior, and you see that, it might be a good idea to stop, rather than proceeding and then getting hurt. Other things would tell you that it is okay to keep going, but you always proceed with caution. Many people have the red flags and they do ignore them, causing them to be hurt after a period of time. They say hind sight is 20/20, meaning you can look back and understand. It is better if you can understand as you are proceeding, so that you recognize the red flags and stop in time to avoid damage.

Crisi, anyone who says that they don't have difficulty in living in obedience to God is not honest. We all have trouble living in obedience to God, and all of us must continually ask for God's forgiveness for our sins, and ask Him to forgive us and help us. We all need help to have a right spirit renewed in us, and to have a pure heart. God accepts the person who prays, "God be merciful to me a sinner," rather than the person who prays with himself/herself about how good he or she is. None of us is good. Only God is good, and He can help us if we will allow Him to do that!

your decision for today will affect your life for a life time. Like choosing your future partner, it is a must to have criteria what you are looking for. Like choosing your career for today, it is important that you sanction to God whatever you have decided because His blessing the most important. We might achieve what we wanted but not in the Lord's will, we wil not be fulfilled and miss God's blessing.

[Edwin]

One decision will have an effect on us for all eternity, and that is the decision of what to do with Jesus. He is calling us to serve Him, and what will we decide? Jesus is standing at our heart's door asking to come in, and will you invite Him in? If we get what we want and miss God's blessings we will lose everything. We must chose this day whom we will serve. Choose Jesus today!

[m&m]

It is hard to decide of our own. It is always good to have someone that will give you godly advice and also those your accountability partner that cares for you. That is good to consider. Because as the book of proverbs says, as many counselors, plans become prosperous/succeed. Do not take for granted your friends or people around you that give you godly counsels.