Divorced

[m&m]

Many people end up divorce or separation because life is hard. It is common in the Philippines that the wife leave the house because the husband cannot provide for the wife.

I cannot blame the wife to look for a greener pasture out of the country to provide for the children because she wanted to have a better life and wanted to provide for the kids.

Or in the other hand, the husband is the one who will go abroad to look for job outside the country. But there are some instances that the husband will look for another woman while he is working abroad. It is also the same way with the wife being left at home. While I was going to the city proper from the barrio though motorcycle, we needed to stop in a waiting shed due to heavy rain. While we were there, one of the passenger was talking to the driver. He shared about his stay in middle east and how sad his life being far from his family. But, the good thing is that he can support his family and build a house. After two years working there, he tried to get his brother to work there also and brought there when he went back to work. Sad to say that the wife of his husband having an affair with another man while his brother is working hard. As I heard what they are talking, the husband sending his wife money back to the PHilippines at least 30,000 a month but never say anything or no investment being saved. Unfortunately, his wife has had an affair with another man here in the Philippines.

Whatever circumstances we are facing, we all need to trust the Lord and ask for wisdom for the decision that we will make. We must have guiding principles in our lives that will direct us even it meant for us to suffer. Because through this, we are strengthened and we can be a blessing to others too.

[Smiley]

I hate cheaters,I see no difference if it is the man or the woman cheating,I have very little respect for anyone that breaks trust with someone who is being faithful to them.
If a relationship is damaged beyond repair you have two choices:

1.You can end the relationship.This at least gives both parties a chance to pick up the pieces
and try to get their lives back on track.It is important to take into account other people
that will be affected by this decision.Children can be affected by such a split a lot more than
the Liberal agenda would have us believe.

2. You can shut up and put up with the situation at hand.You can face a lifetime of disrespect,
neglect,as well as other physical or emotional abuse.You may even be able to come up with
a way to rationalize staying in such a relationship.Statistics prove most of these
rationalizations false.The abusive party tends to become more abusive as time goes on,not
less.If you are willing to give up self respect for the sake of being in an unworkable situation
I can`t stop you.
Either of these two choices is better than cheating.You can choose to end a relationship or you can choose to continue it.But you do not pursue a new one while you are in one.Once a person finds it easy to cheat I find them difficult to trust.If I can`t trust someone I don`t really want them very close to me.Life without honor and integrity is pretty weak.
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[red]

I agree and i would like to add. You may choose to live with the cheater forever and plot for revenge. Make the cheater suffer.

[Edwin]

I am with you, Red, make that cheater pay!!! Well it is sad that people choose to cheat. Like the man sacrificing in the foreign country for the good of his wife and his family, and then the woman cheating on him while he is making that sacrifice, and that is not good. We all need to seek God's will in our lives, and live like we believe God would have us live!

[Smiley]

I have spent a lot of my life in and around motorcycle clubs.Over the past several years I have been making changes in my life.I have almost completed the process of retiring from a club that I have been a member of for a long time.This is not an overnight decision or a quick process.
My point is ; In the clubs I have been surrounded by people that I could trust.Anybody that became untrustworthy found that the word can become a lonely and scarey place.Your integrity should not be questionable by those that know you.Your loyalty should go without saying.
It is too bad that there is not more of this attitude in the world,just think how nice it would be if you could actually rely on those around you.

[Edwin]

If we could rely on people around us the devil would be very unhappy, because he loves to stir up trouble, and he does it that way by getting people to do other people wrong. The Bible says that he knows that his time is short, so he is going about as a roaring lion seeking whom he can devour. The thief comes to rob, steal, and kill, but Jesus came to give life, and life more abundantly! It must really be nice to be among people that you know you can trust. A lot of our energy is used in just trying to see that people don't take advantage of us! There is going to be righteousness in God's new heaven and earth! It will be so nice!

[crisipicada]

It is hard for the children to see their parents get separated. I saw in the television one time 'face to face', the children are so affected to see that their parents divorce. How so sad about it.

[Edwin]

You are right, Crisi, about divorce being so sad for the children. I think it is true to say that they always get hurt. Even when children are grown and gone from home it is sad for them to see their parents separate and divorce. My brother and sister-in-law's divorce was the hardest on their youngest son who was still in high school. He quit school because of it, but later returned and did finish and graduate. Now he is fine, but it was a shock that damaged him for a while.