Crisi, deciding on who to share your life and build a family with is certainly one of the most important decisions anyone could ever make. And, by what you've written, it sounds like you have given this a great amount of consideration and that you can clearly envision the kind of man that you will eventually marry. I think it's great that you take this exciting part of life very seriously, and that you recognize that to find a life partner who you will be happy with for a lifetime involves a lot more than just reacting to one set of emotions. Someone else here said that you are wiser beyond your years. I very much agree. And, I think your faith is your strength.
I'm an American and it saddens me to say that in American culture far too many people give more consideration to any number of other things in life than they do to who they are going to marry and share their life with. This is evidenced by the high rate of divorce we have here in the U.S. The latest figures suggest that almost 2/3 of all first-time marriages in the U.S. end in divorce. This means that out of every 3 marriages, 2 marriages end in divorce. This is such an alarming statistic, and the reasons for it are many. But, that's another topic.
Now, I know, in the Philippines there is no divorce, and so more couples remain married. But, is this misleading? Yes, there may not be any divorces, but does that translate to there being more happier marriages? Crisi, will have more of an informed answer to this question, and so I'll leave it to you to answer:)
Without question, human relationships are very complex. This is because the human mind is very complex. We are all capable of feeling a kaleidoscope of emotions, and so finding a special someone that possesses feelings that are complementary to our own so that we mutually complete each other is not necessarily an easy thing to do. Every individual is different with different ways of viewing life. I don't believe there is any one clearly defined set of traits or characteristics that we or our partner/spouse can possess that will ensure that we will have a life-long loving relationship. Yes, while it's true that there are some general characteristics (i.e., strengths) of a relationship/marriage that seem to be shared by couples professing to be happy, I think what is really important is how well these characteristics "fit". What do I mean?
Well, let's take the idea of "communication" between spouses. Most would agree that communication is important for any relationship. OK, so let's say that two people make a continuous effort to communicate with each other. They are both very approachable, both are even tempered, both respect each other, and both are willing to talk about concerns the other person may have. Sounds good, right? But, suppose that one person likes or needs to talk about some really deep feelings in order to feel secure and happy, and the other person just isn't capable or feels uncomfortable talking about those kinds of feelings. This is not uncommon. Some people are just that way. Some people have trouble talking about certain feelings. So what happens now? Well, these issues will likely remain unresolved. It has been my experience that unresolved issues can have a life of their own. What I mean is that they never seem to go away and, in fact, become more of an issue as time passes.
Another area that most would agree is important is "couple closeness". But, how does each spouse define "closeness"? We all have reserved emotions for things in our life that make us feel good or satisfied. Whether it be some good friends, a career that we enjoy, our parents and siblings, a pet, etc. This is all good. But, it's also important, in fact it's vital, to reserve emotional space for the special love in your life so that you can remain connected in ways other than just the physical. Some couples can spend many years together, or even a lifetime, and yet they never really seem be very close emotionally. They have missed out on one of life's greatest gifts. Losing this precious connection usually means the beginning of the end.
Some other areas where a good "fit" or commonality is important are managing financial affairs, religious beliefs, sexual compatibility, being respectful of each other's viewpoints, handling matters of friends & family so that they do not interfere with the husband/wife relationship, and remaining flexible and being willing to resolve conflicts quickly and respectfully through compromise.
There are many other areas where having a good "fit" is important. But, the point I'm trying to make is that although it is unrealistic to think that a perfect relationship is possible, it is certainly realistic to strive for a near-perfect one. Ultimately, your happiness is at stake. I think that, globally, people are people. And, fundamentally, women and men relate to each other in much the same ways no matter what part of the world they live.
So, how can you decide?
By drawing strength from your faith and from the experiences you have had in your life. Life is a great teacher. Remember, only you have experienced your exact life, Crisi, and so only you could have learned the lessons from those experiences. Use your God given intellect and listen to both your heart and to your brain. And, when you least expect it, through His love, blessings and guidance, a man that is right for you will walk into your life, a man that you will love with all your heart and that will in turn love you with all his heart.