I didn't do very well in school until I figured out how to study and keep ahead of all my work. Then I graduated with a two year degree with a 4.0 grade point average for all subjest, math, science, Eng. lit classes, writing classes all kinds. I came to enjoy excelling, and I did almost as well at the university, then moved to another university and got 4.0 on everything I did there! In a way doing well in school is a curse, because you begin to expect more from yourself, and the stress level goes up. I hated all my tests, and nearly always excelled on them as well. I loved school even in the earlier years when I didn't do well, I loved school anyway.
I had one teacher in a long distance class, we were in the classroom, no teacher, a bunch of students, the teacher was miles away in another school conducting our class, video and audio over the telephone line, and I still don't know how that worked. I knew she was tough, so I memorized everything. She thought I had a photographic memory, but she never knew how hard I worked to commit all that to memory. She told some of the slower students, that some have to work harder than others do, and even though I did very well, I worked harder than you can imagine for my success!
I think this finding a man for the young ladies is kind of like that. Often you don't do so well until you figure it out, and then it is all down hill from there. Red, has the right suggestions! You get on here and respond to posts. Also ask questions about things you don't understand, or ask questions even if you do understand to draw other people out. Then when you think of interesting topics start your own new post that other people will respond to. The more you post, the more guys will notice you, and you will have a better chance of finding one. One nice thing about this, is the Bible says, "Out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh," and so the more you write, and the more others write, you get so you know what is in each other's hearts. So you actually you do get to know other people fairly well this way. This is one way you can expose yourself to others, and they can expose themselves to you. The more exposure the better for getting to know each other!
Some takes forever...............so long but keep the faith and be honest and keep looking, be active here on posting you might find him here. 
It helps if the more you talk or keep posting you will be more noticeable by men. Good luck and God bless on your search.
