by LanieRisteen » Sat May 08, 2010 12:58 pm
From an American guy:
Be honest about yourself and what you are looking for in your profile. Ladies, if you have children, say how many and the sex up front in your post. You want to not be afraid of your "secret" if things go well with a guy.
Speaking for myself, I went through all of the jaderune website. I had a "looks good enough" line in my mind, and if the lady met that then I read her profile. The ones that I liked what they had to say, I put on a list. Then I went back over all of the ladies on the list and picked six at a time to write to. (Sites that charge for the contact information say to write to at least 20 women since it is a numbers game. I didn't want to do that.) When I had not heard from anyone in two weeks, I sent another group of six. Response time was slow, and I ended up with responses from 4 of the 12 ladies.
One made it easy to eliminate her because she hinted about money and then asked me to send money to her.
I ended up choosing my wife because of her character, how responsible she is (she is Ate in her family) her positive outlook on life, our common interests, and because I trusted her that she wasn't chatting with tons of other guys.
One other post I read mentioned not to worry too much about looks. Some of my wife's friends are not what I would consider attractive, but they are married and here in the United States.
One guy made mention of grammar. I'd ignore that if you can communicate your ideas. English is my wife's third language, so I don't think her use of English has anything to do with intelligence. Americans have a bias that everyone else should speak English, but most of us speak only English.
Good luck...