Perfect Love is God's love. This love is brought out in I Corinthians 13: There are various interpretations of love that are expressed by various words in the Greek language. Some of them are in the Greek New Testiment, but I think there is one that is not. It, if I remember correctly is the Hollywood type love. There is God's kind of love, and there is the sentimental sloppy type love. There is the love that has to do with sexual attractions, and I can't remember the others, but yes, love is love, but no, love is not love. What I mean by that is that when you say the word love it can mean different things to different people. There is the love that two people have for each other before they get married, but a percentage of those couples will end up a few months or years later in the divorce court, and for most of them there is hate at that point in time. I have seen some who have hated each other for years, even threatening to kill each other. Some bury the hatchet, so to speak, becomes good friend years later, and in a few case even remarry, or like in the case of my younger sister almost remarry. We are to love our enemies. The love that a young couple have for each other may with God's help grow into something that is even more noble than what caused them to come to the marriage alter.
We might kind of sentimentally love each other, we might feel sexual attraction or have desires to be fulfilled sexually. We may have the Hollywood type love, but there is a special love that God wants us to have that is described in I Corinthians 13: I sincerely doubt that non Christians are even capable of God's love for each other. This is something that God puts in people's hearts. Otherwise, non Christians have a selfish love that is good as long as it is reciprocated and everything is ideal, and that is why there are so many divorces because most people just do not have the love for the other person that God intended for them to have. Just let something go wrong, and all the love is out the door, but not for the commited Christian. The commited Christian will love inspite of all, because God loved them, put it in their hearts, and they will love regardless of what happens.
I agree with you, Smiley, that, that kind of a question demanding that kind of an answer is not wise. If a person wants to devulge such information, then that is a different story, where a person would come out and say, "I am in love with "so and so. Or someone could figure that out, and then keep it to themselves. I don't mean to be hard on Erwin, but I agree with you Smiley, that he came on a little strong, by demanding an answer to that question.
To comment on Gary's idea, I think, Gary, that you are correct, outside of God, people usually don't change. For the most part we are helpless to help ourselves. It is like lifting ourselves by our own boot straps. We can't do it, but God can. When we come to Jesus, He makes all things new! We become new creations in Christ Jesus. So, the past is a prediction of the future unless God changes us from within, then we live by a whole new set of desires, and we will live differently!