Practice makes perfect-or Perfectly imperfect

[crisipicada]

"The love we practice today in dating not only shows the world Christ's love, it also prepares us for our future relationships. As we relate to others today, we form patterns that we'll take with us into sincere love but also practice commitment-based love.

We see so much divorce and betrayal in our society today. Take a quick count - how many of your friends come from a broken homes? I believe that this trend will only increase as each generation begins to practice short-term love in dating relationships earlier and earlier. It seems that dating as we have come to know it doesn't really prepare us for marriage; instead it can be a training ground for divorce. We cannot practice lifelong commitment in a series of short-term relationships.

Does that mean we're supposed to marry the first person we date? No. We need to carefully and cautiously consider marriage, remaining willing to back out of a relationship if God shows us we need to. There's no wisdom in rushing into marriage simply because we've become romantically attached to someone. The wrong mind-set so prevalent today, however, is not related to choosing a spouse. Many of us have fallen prey to the idea that we can, and should, pursue romance for its sake. In other words, "I'll become intimate with you because it feels good, not because I'm prayerfully considering marriage." This attitude is not fair to the other person and is terrible preparation for marriage. Who wants to marry someone who will ditch a relationship the moment romantic feelings wane? Who wants to marry a person who has developed a habit of breaking up and finding someone new when the going gets tough?

We need to realize that lifelong commitment so many of us desire in our future marriages cannot be practiced or prepared for in a lifetime of short-term relationships. Until we can commit to making a relationship work for the rest of our lives - and yes, it is a huge commitment - we do ourselves and others a disservice by pursuing short-term love in the meantime. True love waits, but not just for sex. It waits for the right time to commit to God's brand of love - unwavering, unflagging, and totally committed"

[Chas]

Practice does make perfect.

My wife and I lived together for a year before getting married. We tested and made sure we were absolutely correct for each other. This led to a brilliant marriage of love and trust working together to triumph over life's obstacles, producing two fantastic well adjusted children.

I would always recommend couples to live together, using contraception, to ensure they are fully compatible for the long term. Only when they are sure should they marry, following which if they decide to have children they stop using contraception. Note: effective contraception is essential.

No I am not Catholic and I realise this approach is not for everybody - but it worked.

[crisipicada]

Practice does make perfect.

My wife and I lived together for a year before getting married. We tested and made sure we were absolutely correct for each other. This led to a brilliant marriage of love and trust working together to triumph over life's obstacles, producing two fantastic well adjusted children.

I would always recommend couples to live together, using contraception, to ensure they are fully compatible for the long term. Only when they are sure should they marry, following which if they decide to have children they stop using contraception. Note: effective contraception is essential.

No I am not Catholic and I realise this approach is not for everybody - but it worked.

Really? I want to share this: My friends said, it is better not to use contraception because it hurts , and also it is so great the natural one.

[jadegil6]

I will offer a few comments here. Contraception is not painful. I have never known anyone who has said or suggested that it is. The sexual act (copulation) may be painful to some individuals.

There are several types of contracepcion.

For men, there are prophalactics, condoms or rubbers (slang) , and there is withdrawal, which is not a reliable method.

For women there are:
(1) birth-control pills (usually taken once a day)
(2) barriers such as intrauterine devices (IUD's) or diaphragms or contraceptive sponges which are normally used only during copulation
(3) spermacides which come in the form of gels or foams that a woman uses prior to copulation
(4) calender-based (the rhythm method) and symtom-based methods
(5) the morning after pill (which some feel are the same as an abortion)
(6) non-vaginal sex
(7) abstinence
(8) surgical sterilization, which are tubal ligation for women and vasectomy for men. This method is usually permanent.

But your friend is right on when she says that the natural way is the greatest and feels the best! That is why many couples choose the behavior-based methods in #4.

[crisipicada]

I will offer a few comments here. Contraception is not painful. I have never known anyone who has said or suggested that it is. The sexual act (copulation) may be painful to some individuals.

There are several types of contracepcion.

For men, there are prophalactics, condoms or rubbers (slang) , and there is withdrawal, which is not a reliable method.

For women there are:
(1) birth-control pills (usually taken once a day)
(2) barriers such as intrauterine devices (IUD's) or diaphragms or contraceptive sponges which are normally used only during copulation
(3) spermacides which come in the form of gels or foams that a woman uses prior to copulation
(4) calender-based (the rhythm method) and symtom-based methods
(5) the morning after pill (which some feel are the same as an abortion)
(6) non-vaginal sex
(7) abstinence
(8) surgical sterilization, which are tubal ligation for women and vasectomy for men. This method is usually permanent.

But your friend is right on when she says that the natural way is the greatest and feels the best! That is why many couples choose the behavior-based methods in #4.

I am glad to hear that. At least now i am learning and in the right time comes that i will get married, at least i am not ignorant of that things. A lot of thanks to your contribution

[crisipicada]

I will offer a few comments here. Contraception is not painful. I have never known anyone who has said or suggested that it is. The sexual act (copulation) may be painful to some individuals.

There are several types of contracepcion.

For men, there are prophalactics, condoms or rubbers (slang) , and there is withdrawal, which is not a reliable method.

For women there are:
(1) birth-control pills (usually taken once a day)
(2) barriers such as intrauterine devices (IUD's) or diaphragms or contraceptive sponges which are normally used only during copulation
(3) spermacides which come in the form of gels or foams that a woman uses prior to copulation
(4) calender-based (the rhythm method) and symtom-based methods
(5) the morning after pill (which some feel are the same as an abortion)
(6) non-vaginal sex
(7) abstinence
(8) surgical sterilization, which are tubal ligation for women and vasectomy for men. This method is usually permanent.

But your friend is right on when she says that the natural way is the greatest and feels the best! That is why many couples choose the behavior-based methods in #4.

I really wish to be happy when i get married in due time. Maybe i will propose to my husband that i would prefer to have a baby after a year or 1 1/2 after we get married. Whatever method be used i will see to it that my partner will be happy as i am happy.

[Mr.Magoo]

That sounds like a wonderful goal, and I will hope that you are able to make your dreams come true. It is not always that easy to "plan" to have a child in a specified timeframe, and then to have your child in that timeframe. Many factors can interfere. Hopefully, you and your man won't run into any of those unforeseen problems, and you will be able to have your baby when you choose to.
And that part about making each other happy....yeh that sounds like it could be a lot of fun.

[bachuichui]

i believe in the saying..practice makes perfect.. because when sometimes i can't do it perfectly i just practice harder to make it perfect

[ms.sin17]

Practice makes perfect! As what I experienced in my Grade 4 years, my teacher wants to join me in a competition and everyday she was giving me hints and possible answers that might come up from the questions.. And she was not wrong I won the competition.. Ohh well, I just wondered why the questions that she was asking me everyday and the questions that was being asked from the competition was almost the same.. no wonder I won the competition.. But my other classmate was given the training also but she did not studied it hard so she just won the 3rd place but its okay at least she won..

[purex]

That sounds like a wonderful goal, and I will hope that you are able to make your dreams come true. It is not always that easy to "plan" to have a child in a specified timeframe, and then to have your child in that timeframe. Many factors can interfere. Hopefully, you and your man won't run into any of those unforeseen problems, and you will be able to have your baby when you choose to.
And that part about making each other happy....yeh that sounds like it could be a lot of fun.

It is very true that it would be a lot of fun hehehehehehhe. Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmp i know that someone in the future to be my partner in life will be a lot of fun