Is sex important on the first visit of a foreign bf?

[jk.kj73]

"Is it important to be with the foreign bf immediately with him in a hotel? or what is the expectation of foreign men in this issue?"

[Chas]

Seriously? Amongst the huge number or foreigners, male and female, visiting the Philippines you must have a huge range of wishes and aims of lesser or greater importance to themselves.

I suspect you best answered your own question in your post - Be true to self.

[m&m]

Sex before marriage is not okay according to God, and this is in several parts of the Old and New Testament.

Also important - I worry about the damage that premarital sex does to the lady. Even if she does not become pregnant, her self-esteem and self-worth is lower afterwards. I have some female friends who lost their virginity when they were younger, and it affects them even today.

As men, they should be protectors of women, and not take advantage of them. Ladies - Please wait for the guy who will protect you and not take advantage of you. God will honor your patience!'

[wayne208]

I will be as Honest as I can Be .. It will not make Me fall Madly in Love with a Lady if We have Sex . But No Sex on the First 2 Dates . I want to get to know the Lady First . I also want to get to know Her Family and What She wants Out of Life . That is as Honest as I can Be Ladies . If I hit it off with Her Family and Her then I will take it as slow as I can . After All She may Not Like Me and My Family . That is Called Honest If You do not Like it that is Cool .

[angel]

wow thumbs up for you wayne .. maybe you really a great guy and one of a 20 men . that very nice to know about that.. sex its not important if the guy really love the girl he will respect it until the day they getting married, unless if the girl wants it maybe they could do lol . just an opinion

[Smiley]

For someone to show up demanding immediate sex is a very bad sign.Likewise,for either member to totally control the sexual content of a relationship is also wrong.
Sexual compatibility is very important in a healthy relationship.Both parties should be willing to satisfy the other.Many marriages have crumbled in part to the sexual hangups of one of the partners.Many more have encountered problems caused by what one partner may consider to be a perversion.
As a case in point let me share this story of a guy that I sailed with for a couple years.
This guy and I shared a lot of boring watches in the middle of the night and talked of many things,he was married for about 7 or 8 years and I was still single.Here goes:
He had been raised in a very strict (Pentecostal I think)household and His family pressured him into the marriage with a woman from their church.She refused any physical contact until "after marriage".After the wedding things did not improve much.Her idea of a normal sex life was something like once every couple months after an hour or two of praying for conception because she held the belief that conception should be the only goal of sex. Of course she always had a bible verse or two that she would twist to support her views. Her level of control spread to a lot more areas of their life than just sex.
The only reason "B" stayed with her so long was that he did not believe in divorce.
Their story gets weirder but the point I'm trying to make is this:
I would never allow myself to get pushed into a marriage just to make family happy.I would not marry someone that had an unhealthy attitude about a sexual relationship.I would not try to dominate and enslave my partner but at the same time I will never allow myself to be dominated and controlled.
Thats more or less the way I see it.

[wayne208]

Angel .. I am by No Means a Perfect Person in any way . But I am Honest and Faithful to the Lady I fall For . I will not Cheat on Her . But if She cheats on Me No Second Chances .. I will consider Us Done as a Couple and will Divorce Her right away . Just Like a You Ladies Should Kick a Cheating Husband to the Curb . Once a Cheater always a Cheater . Smiley is Correct Sex is Important to Me and Most Guys here . But I am Not Going to Ever Force a Lady into Having Sex with Me . I have No Respect For any Man who Does Force a Lady against Her Will . Nor do I have any Respect or a Guy who gets a Girl Drunk or on Drugs . So That he Can have Sex with Her . That is a No No in My Book

[cheryz]

i agree with wayne and smiley