How to make your relationship last

[cheryz]

i learned a lot to this topic thanks to you crisi.

Starting a relationship is always fun and exciting, but making a relationship last is hard work. Once you’ve gotten settled in your relationship, you have to maintain an honest flow of communication and to continue to cherish your time with your loved one. Making a relationship last isn’t always fun, but the benefits of maintaining a long-term and committed relationship far outweigh the difficulties that you may face.

Be honest with each other. Honesty is the key to any long-lasting relationship. To keep your relationship strong, you should be able to be open and honest with your special someone. You should be able to share your most intimate thoughts and feelings with your loved one, or you’re not really communicating.
Learn to compromise. In any strong relationship, being happy should be more important than being right. If you want your relationship to last, then you should learn how to make decisions with your loved one, and to find a way for both of you to be happy with the decisions, or to take turns giving in to each other.Be thoughtful. When the two of you are making a decision, take the time to discuss the pros and cons and what you can do to meet halfway.
Learn to say you’re sorry. This is an important point. If you want to be in a long-lasting relationship, then you absolutely have to learn how to say you’re sorry from time to time. When it comes to a relationship, admitting you’re sorry is much more important than being stubborn. Learn to apologize if you’ve done something wrong. It may take you some time to realize that you made a mistake, but once you do, say that you’re sorry for what you’ve done.

[crisipicada]

Well, this is very interesting topic. I talk to my sister in law yesterday and we had a very great conversation. I learn from her that, while they are in relationship with my brother, whom become her husband, she loves to give notes, to my brother. Like, serving coffee with note on the up, or giving something for him to remember her. Also, I learn from her that she wanted that her bf (my brother), wants her to give something, like flowers, notes and also something sweet. It is indeed important to know the love language of couple and maintain that.

[cheryz]

i ask some of my friend about how they come up for 5 or more years in a long relationship they says try to fight about jealousy and previous misdemeanors and stop arguing over the same issues or blowing up in anger over the smallest of triggers or it may be because both partner not addressed some old issue, if that happens again try to stay calm and work out why you have reacted in this way. just try to talk to them in good calm way. talk with feelings look in their eyes. it can help that you are sincere the way you explain to it. and ofcourse make your relationship better by taking time out. your boyfriend or girlfriend is busy in a work try to spend time together even in the house to watch movies or taking out in a resort or it can help spending time in a spa together.

[m&m]

Actually, it takes hard work. It takes more understanding. I believe it takes two to work, not just the other. on the other side, it needs to understand one another. Like, what makes the woman happy, and when she knows she is being loved, cared, understood, then I believe, that she will reciprocate the guy. Well, it needs to build up the friendship stage, I believe this. I do not easily get attracted to person, actually. I need to have that friendship and in the process of friendship, i wil be able to love him. This my idea and experience.

How about you guys? what can you say about this?

[cheryz]

its good to have friendship first m&m, but i do lot of boy friends in college and they started to court me because they said they started to develop coz of my attitude they says but no one i commit with them coz i value our friendship and i love them as a friend only, until now we still have communication even we have family already.

[m&m]

I wanted to share this thought I also read. This is very important for couples even for those who have not married yet or still in a courting stage or even still single. Guys, please read this. This is very true.

[crisipicada]

Relationships are made beautiful when two people come together to share their love for one another. Often, due to fickle differences, the love shared gets lost. This article will teach young lovers on how to keep the flame of their relationship aglow.
1. Honesty

Be honest in your relationship. When two people, from different walks of life, come together to share their love, honesty is the only thing that keeps the relationship from falling apart. With honesty comes trust and with trust, love grows over time. Sowing the seeds of dishonesty will only lead to heartache and broken relationships.
2. Acceptance

Don’t hold impossibly high ideals, when it comes to assessing your partner. It will only lead to disappointment. You should understand that every individual is different and it is their imperfections that make them endearing to us over time. So what if your girlfriend hates playing video games, or thinks that your friends are stupid. Everyone is entitled to their opinion. Accept her for what she is and you will see how strong your relationship grows with time.
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3. Communicate

Most relationships go awry because both parties in the relationship assume their partner would automatically know what they are feeling. Instead, why don’t you try telling her how she makes you feel? Communication is the key to any relationship. You are not all-knowing, so without communicating your feelings to her, do not expect a lost-lasting relationship.
4. Compromise

Accept the fact that you are not perfect. The chances of fighting like cats and dogs are enormous. However, knowing when to accept your fault and when to compromise on a certain situation will take your relationship to a long way. A relationship is supposed to be fulfilling enough to complete you. If being in a particular relationship makes you happier than you have ever been, you need to stand by that relationship. If, however, being with her makes you compromise your own happiness, it is not worth the effort.
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5. Maintain sexual attraction

In a relationship, sex is beyond the physical gratification. It is the means by which two individuals express their feelings for each another. So, it is very important to be able to keep the passion ignited. Sex is the perfect way to tell your partner how she makes you feel. Not only does it bring two individuals closer, but also bridges any significant gap that might’ve cropped up over time. As the years go by, you'll keep revisiting and re-imagining the passion you have for each other. And if you keep at it, you'll have a sex life that transcends your relationship’s lack of newness and the physical changes that come with time.

A relationship is like a delicate flower. It needs tender and loving care to blossom. By following the above-mentioned methods, you are much closer to ensure that your relationship lasts a long time, even eternity.


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I believe communication is very important. Positive communication is important even how hard life could be. If one is negative and the other one is negative, then relationship would not succeed.

For me, I go back to what the Lord's will is. As much as the elder sister of my youngest brother who got married last November 19, 2013, the Lord used me to be an encouragement to him. He ask me advised and how to make relationship last.

I always point out to him that it is important to have good communication. It is important to talk more about what the Lord's will in a relationship. I told him about what are the roles of the husband and also what kind of wife the Lord wants. So, they decided to have devotion everyday and pray together. I am glad that they are doing that and that makes their relationship as married couple, in the Lord.

First and foremost, I told him that both must be willing to serve the Lord. A relationship is a love triangle. The husband and the wife and God. THe Lord must be the center of the relationship. As a husband, it needs to have full respect to the wife and treat his wife as his own body, thus taking care of the wife. The Scripture is much clear about the husband as the provider of the family. Also, the wife the helpmate. Since both wanted to work, so they work while they have no children yet. I told her, let your wife express what is in her heart and be willing to listen to her. I told him that, it is not good to command a wife but tell her with kind, sweet words. Let your heart be gentle to her. I told her also the keep a positive outlook in life. If life is not getting better, always try to tell each other that life is always a mixture of many things - trials, happiness and sometimes tribulation. But what is important is that always tell each other that they will always be together and not leave each other no matter what. Do not leave each other because marriage takes two.

I have so much to tell here. And I hope that I can apply all these things when I come to marriage life. I pray for that. And most of all, always pray that the Lord will grant what He desire to be our heart's desire.

[wayne208]

Great Post Crisi . I could Not Agree with You More . The Girl I marry will find out that I am also Loyal to My Mate . I will Not Cheat on Her ever . If Your Mate is Cheating on You Leave the Relationship . A Friend of Mine was Married for 25 Years . On His 25th anniversary He asked his Wife what She wanted for a Present She said a Divorce . He Thought at First She was Joking .. She was Not Joking after seeing a Couple's Counselor they Have gotten a Divorce . He found Out She was Cheating on Him for the Last 5 Years . He said it was a Waste of 5 Years That if She wanted Out all she Had to Do was Ask . Jim has since found a Nice Lady who worships him and is Truthful and Loyal to Him . Meanwhile His Wives Lover Has Left her for a Younger Lady .. Karma I think

[callmemaybe]

The most important to one's relationship is communication. It is important for both parties to be open and most importantly not giving up on each other. Women are sweet in nature. I dont know really much of guys. I know very few men who exerts effort to their woman. It is also important that the attraction of both sides still remain for the relationship to last. If there's no attraction, I doubt if a relationship can make it long. Sweetness is my weakness and I believe women today wants to be loved and also be loved much more than they deserve. I am not sexist but it is the role of a man to reach out and exert more effort for the woman he loves. As we grow older each day I realize quantity is not really important, quality does. I hope men today is more sensitive for their woman and vice versa.