Are Filipinas Jealous??

[lyrehc]

Yes indeed smiley you are right its normal to be jealous...but its not normal when it came to friend and family..in a relationship its normal to get jealous,but for example,i get jealous because of a certain things i saw from a friend ,that is not right we cant be jealous because we want this and that,because others have this and we dont have..that is not right at all.we have to be continted of what we have.and in relationship its normal to get jealous,people who get mad because of jealousy is a sweet lover..better find one..

[crisipicada]

Yes, I am jealous person. I remember long time ago when I had someone special and he told me that many girls try to send him message online and they are pretty and cute. My heart really crush and I was discourage. Well, my heart cry but not anymore.

[eStu]

Are Filipinas jealous? Is the Pope a Catholic?

Just kidding. It's a stereotype and no doubt subject to variations and exceptions, but in my limited experience - like the original poster - I seem to have detected that Filipinas are more likely to accept or embrace jealousy in how they define themselves than women from some other cultural groups. But, hey, it's a human trait and you'll find it - and jokes about it - in every country.

I remember that in my 20s I was in a long-term relationship with a girl (Australian) who got quite upset that I was not jealous enough. I was a bit confused because my experiences up to that time led me to believe that a high level of trust was a good thing. I've come to understand that some level of protectiveness or possessiveness can be healthy in a relationship. I still think that trust is vital, but even if you've built a ship that can withstand the roughest seas, you're better off plotting a tranquil path when you can. I now feel that a girl could (hypothetically, because I'm single) quite validly feel 'jealous' without necessarily doubting whether I would ultimately stray and be intimate with someone else, so I guess I'd be more amenable to changing my plans to alleviate a partner's distress due to jealousy than I was years ago.

I think it's true that one can get a slight ego boost from seeing that your partner/love interest cares enough to get fired up, but I'd add that baiting someone intentionally to get such a rise is really uncool and lacks compassion. I think it's good to be open with all parties if you're still in the 'getting to know you' stage and not yet committed, but it's a situation that calls for tact rather than boastfulness.

I wonder... is there any sub-group within the Philippines who are renowned as particularly jealous lovers?

[crisipicada]

Oh yes, we are jealous but there is reason why. But for me, I feel I am really jealous, I easily get discourage, I lost interest and my emotions make me carried away and telling me not to continue to communicate because sometimes I feel I have someone who has divided attention and not love me fully. Because I try my best to fully love the person. And when there are other reason for me that he wont give attention to, I mean other woman, or losing him, then I tend to make myself distance because in the end I will be feeling sad. But I notice that I need assurance of love. I need words to hear such as, "despite of this or that, my love remains in you and desire to be together". Those kind words erase my doubts and discouragements. It is just simple as that.