WHY ARE THERE MANY BROKEN HOMES ? MANY BROKEN MARRIAGES?

[Edwin]

I also belong to a broken home, my mom and my father got separated when my mom was 4 months pregnant of me...it's a long story..it's my mom who provide all the i need financially..i grew up in my granny coz she had to go to Manila for work..

I consider myself lucky coz of my mom..

That is wonderful that your mom and your granny sacrificed to help you. That is what God wants us to do is to sacrifice to help each other.

[crisipicada]

'a couple who don't fight because they don't talk cannot claim to have a peaceful marriage. Peace is not the absence of conflict but the presence of love and justice

[crisipicada]

Two are better than one; because
they have a good reward for their labor.
For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow:
but for he hate not another to help him up.
Again, if two lie together, then they have
heat: but how can one be warm alone?
And if one prevail against him,
two shall withstand him; and a threefold
cord is not quickly broken.
Ecclesiastes 4:9-12

[Edwin]

Two are better than one; because
they have a good reward for their labor.
For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow:
but for he hate not another to help him up.
Again, if two lie together, then they have
heat: but how can one be warm alone?
And if one prevail against him,
two shall withstand him; and a threefold
cord is not quickly broken.
Ecclesiastes 4:9-12

Solomon had the wisdom given from God. Two are better than one, and that is true. It is a good feeling for a couple to work together for the benefit of both. There is a boosting of morale for both. I do not like to be alone, and when Carol is gone like for her spinning excursion, or like a few years ago when she went to the Philippines I didn't like feeling alone, but I am always happy for her that she can have a break and get away, and I surive okay. When she went to the Philippines we were moving out of our house, and I was so busy between work and moving, as well as splitting wood for the place where I was staying that I didn't have time for loneliness. The few days that she was gone on her spinning thing I was pretty busy milking the cow and goats, but I was sure happy to see her return.

One lifting the other up is important. When one person has problems the other can help, and that is a great benefit. For years when when it was cold we could feel warm from each other, and that was a comfort. Carol's diabetes has caused her feet to bother her to the point that she can't stand the weight of covers on her feet, and I need covers when I sleep, so consequently we don't sleep together. She uses hot water bottles in bed to keep her warm, and when she gets feeling really miserably cold, or if she has a nightmare, bad dream, she will come and crawl into bed with me for a few hours. I miss her in bed with me, but I understand her problem and feel badly for her. It is important for a couple to protect each other in times of difficulty or conflict. Protection from the enemy is important, for one to support the other, and give a feeling of safety.

[crisipicada]

"Communication: Key to Your Marriage"
Sometime in the 1960’s or 70’s, Hollywood actor Steve McQueen starred in a movie entitled “Cool Hand Luke.” The most famous line from that movie is: "What we have here is a failure to communicate."

(By the way, a trivia question for you. Which current NBA player in the Western Conference is called by the nickname “Cool Hand Luke?”)

One time, while browsing at the old National Bookstore in Edsa Central, my attention got caught by the striking title of a book - “Communication: Key To Your Marriage” (Published by Regal Books, A Division of Gospel Light). The price of the book at that time was nearly four hundred pesos. Having saved enough money after two weeks, I returned to the store to buy the one and only remaining copy of this book by H. Norman Wright.

This book has a companion manual “How To Speak Your Spouse’s Language, or Are Men Really From Pluto and Women from Saturn?” The manual (28 US dollars retail) isn’t available locally, and I had to request my mother in LA to buy the manual for me. It offers lessons (with patterns for transparencies, guidelines for activities, etc) which can be covered either in a whole day session or in ten Sunday School sessions.

I have read through Wright’s book, and perhaps the most memorable portion is found in page 191 where he writes about relationships between T(hinkers) and F(eelers).

One of the most typical relationships that develops is between a male T and a female F. This connection has the most potential for creating divisiveness and long-term problems. T’s need to think about and analyze their emotions. They bring to a marriage emotional control and reserve that can limit intimacy. They want to understand intimacy, not experience it, while an F wants to share openly and experience intimacy.


If a couple doesn’t learn to connect emotionally, they’re at risk for either an affair or a marriage breakup. The bonding material of a marriage is emotional intimacy. F’s hunger for warmth, sharing and closeness, and without this dimension, they can end up feeling lonely. They like the inner strength and security of a T but not the perceived emptiness.
From: Salt & Light

[Edwin]

"Communication: Key to Your Marriage"
Sometime in the 1960’s or 70’s, Hollywood actor Steve McQueen starred in a movie entitled “Cool Hand Luke.” The most famous line from that movie is: "What we have here is a failure to communicate."

(By the way, a trivia question for you. Which current NBA player in the Western Conference is called by the nickname “Cool Hand Luke?”)

One time, while browsing at the old National Bookstore in Edsa Central, my attention got caught by the striking title of a book - “Communication: Key To Your Marriage” (Published by Regal Books, A Division of Gospel Light). The price of the book at that time was nearly four hundred pesos. Having saved enough money after two weeks, I returned to the store to buy the one and only remaining copy of this book by H. Norman Wright.

This book has a companion manual “How To Speak Your Spouse’s Language, or Are Men Really From Pluto and Women from Saturn?” The manual (28 US dollars retail) isn’t available locally, and I had to request my mother in LA to buy the manual for me. It offers lessons (with patterns for transparencies, guidelines for activities, etc) which can be covered either in a whole day session or in ten Sunday School sessions.

I have read through Wright’s book, and perhaps the most memorable portion is found in page 191 where he writes about relationships between T(hinkers) and F(eelers).

One of the most typical relationships that develops is between a male T and a female F. This connection has the most potential for creating divisiveness and long-term problems. T’s need to think about and analyze their emotions. They bring to a marriage emotional control and reserve that can limit intimacy. They want to understand intimacy, not experience it, while an F wants to share openly and experience intimacy.


If a couple doesn’t learn to connect emotionally, they’re at risk for either an affair or a marriage breakup. The bonding material of a marriage is emotional intimacy. F’s hunger for warmth, sharing and closeness, and without this dimension, they can end up feeling lonely. They like the inner strength and security of a T but not the perceived emptiness.
From: Salt & Light

That is good, crisi. I don't know the answer to that trivia question.

[jadegil6]

It is probably Luke Walton.

And it was not Steve McQueen in that movie...it was Paul Newman.

Shakin' it here, Boss!

[crisipicada]

Why? Because of wrong choices.

[mona]

Broken homes because of misunderstanding.

[cougarkharne]

Many people forget to take the time to get to know each other before they marry. Often it can take more than just love to have a perfect relationship/marriage. You need to have some compatibility. and you need to be close friends as well a love to your partner. Without this tension can build and that is where the problems can begin. Never be in a hurry, love is precious.

NBA star Cool Hand Luke is " LUKE HARANGODY " a new player for the Boston Celtics