by abufarsi » Tue Jan 25, 2011 4:31 pm
Am I the only one to post the obvious?
Age differences are important. Both for the good and the bad. Older partners have lots more experience than their spouses, you might think this is good until you remember when you were with your parents and thought "they never understand". Older partners are likely to act as "parents" on several fronts... they are better financially capable, like your parents were, they are conservative in their lives as they know how long life is, they have far more developed life's skills like cooking, leisure activities, workings of governments, budgeting, problem solving, and parenting...
Lots of activities of the young are about just finding about who you are, testing out this or that. So much of the world is new. Younger people have vastly more energy to spend, have greater universal sex appeal, far better health, can offer more to their children long term (parenting does not stop when the kids move out). Risk taking delivers younger people a thrill, older people simply say why?
Adventure travel? who wants diarrhea? Water ski? With this gut of mine?
Who wants a partner who thinks they know all the answers, and then they turn out to be correct?
Women who have happy marriages with older guys have marriages where many aspects are overtly unequal. But with trust, faith, and understanding those inequities can be patched over. Somebody who feel that because somebody selected them for marriage, they automatically are equal in every regard should never marry an older person.
I have known many May December marriages and to my knowledge the guys loved their wives to a fault. Cherished them. But none felt that vast differences made anything easier.
older partners offer great advantages, first is probably security. Younger partners offer great advantages too, like a live in family (children).