When to say “Will you marry me?” & “Yes! I’ll marry you!

[chaychay644]

Whenever a person reached the age wherein they start to have their crushes. They tend to dwell on the more superficial qualities to their opposite sex. Such as popularity, good-looking, friendly and funny. But, there are also some who based their attraction on the inner qualities of a person such as being smart, talented etc. As the age changes, their preference towards their opposite sex also change rapidly. Since they already have the so called “power of perception” wherein they tend to be aware of qualities of their perspective mate such as spiritually-minded, trustworthy, morally-upright & goal oriented. They begin to have their “ideal man/woman”.

But, there are also some, who do not have the ideal man/woman preference as long as they get along well with each other. In this phase/stage of growth we often look beyond the superficial traits to answer the question “Is he/she is the one I’m looking for?”.

Before you jump into “yes” answer. It is a must for you to know yourself better. Since it would be easier for you to know the kind of person you want to be with you for the rest of your life. Knowing yourself is not an easy task, coz you need to evaluate yourself regarding your mates’ preference. What His/her attitude, hobbies, qualities, spiritual values and other factors that matters to you most.

What if you think you’ve found that person? Will you jump into conclusion that “he/she is the one your looking for?”. Such a bad idea! You don’t need to rush things. Try your best to know the person as well. His/her attitude and weaknesses, does she have the qualities that you are looking for in a mate? What happened when you disagree? Does he/she try to hurt you? Ouch! It’s a bad sign. Does he/she use abusive speech? Hmp! Another bad sign. This are only a few questions that are essential when you are about to examine inner qualities of your prospective partner.

Yes! Indeed, finding a mate is much more a difficult issue compared when you go shopping. Whenever you shop, you just take into consideration the products design, color, style & the signature. But, its different when you look for a mate. Instead, you consider the attributes that you have in common.

As time goes along, more than a few members of the opposite sex may catch your eye. But not just anyone will do. Afterall, you want someone you’ll be comfortable with. Someone who truly fits your personality & your goals. If you think you’ve found that special someone w/ qualities you’ve been looking for in a mate. Then don’t hesitate to ask this nerve-wrecking question of “Will you marry me?” & girls don’t hesitate to say “Yes! I’ll marry you” if you think he has the qualities you’ve been looking for.

[edeline]

I agree as age goes by, a person changes his ideal man or crush as the starting. Crushes usually blooms during high school when we get attracted to the opposite sex. I observe it that in those days way back in high school, we were more on the physical attributes that our crush has. His popularity also was one which we admired so much.

When I was in highschool I had a crush and I didn't know at the first place that he was the most inteliigent student in his batch. Sooner, I knew about him. I felt so shy and was funny that early morning instead of getting inside the classroom I was somewhere hiding because I didn't want to meet him on the pavement. It happened that my classroom was also the place where the well was located and he needed to fetch water there to water the plants every morning. I am just smiling everytime, I remember those days that I was afraid meeting my crush and when we meet accidentally I could feel I am blushing and like an ice melting in front of him because of shyness. It was just simply an admiration and we called it puppy love.

[edeline]

I am not sure if others are really setting standards and looking for the qualities of a guy strictly. Before I used to be like that, but when time came that a man came to my life, I feel so much love for him and we went along well. I thought that I was setting standards and focusing on the ideal man that I want but I wasn't and I realized that when I met this guy. There was even an instance that I said, I will not look for this kind of guy which I referred to my ex but as days pass by I realized I was falling in love with him. I then said, I thought I couldn't accept this kind of guy but he was just so good me and I felt how much he loved me.

Very different compared to shopping or buying anything because once we are tied up we can't rewind if we have said yes already. Moreover, regrets always come after the event and not before. At least in shopping, you can reject the dress you bought if you don't want it anymore but relationship is not like that. It is totally different which is like a plant that needs to be watered and taken care of everyday so that it will have amzing growth.

[edeline]

I believe that both gender feel that thing inside saying I want you so much and I want you to be with me for the rest of my life. What is needed is just honesty of our feelings so that both will know if a relationship needs a to be continued or stopped. It should work in both ways and the two must cooperate to get the common goal if they have the same goal. If not, that will be a problem when only one is working and the other is not cooperating. It will not help. There are people that they love their partners so much and can't give freedom even of the other side wants it. it is not good, they said that begging of love is not working and that is what happening with that when a person will say, stay with me,you, you will soon love me back again me. If the other says not, set him/her free, though it hurt in the first place but it will soon lead to a better relationship because you can always love the way you love him/her but you don't know him/her if she/he can have that same love you gave.

[edeline]

I understand now, when the people say they are madly in love. I am in a situation that I am so much in love with my guy. It is really true that I might see many handsome men over there, attractive and has such ideal man that a girl would ever wish for to have..that is nothing because after all, what is inside mine is that..my man is always the best. It makes me think again what are the nice qualities he has and what are the things that make me love him so much. I asked my ego, my bf is so loving and considerate and he is handsome but I don't think so those men passing by are like him. I am comfortable with my man and I could compare that it is indeed different compared before. If it happened that he is going to ask will I marry him, I will say yes. I am sure that I want him so much and I hope that he always feels that he wants me so much also in my life. I will not waste time because I think I could no longer find any better because for me he is the best guy.

[crisipicada]

Until you are not inlove, you cannot think of this things. Until you realize how much you love someone, you are willing to spend the rest of your life with someone you love. Until you are willing to sacrifice someone you care and willing to give yourself, then that is the time you are willing to say "Yes" i will marry you to the man you love.

Okay, i am considering enough many aspects of my life. First, I respect my family more than anything else. I respect them that to the point that I want them to meet the man that I will marry and what has God prepared for me. I keep on telling them about my life love even from the start so that they will know and that they feel comfortable for the man who will give his life for me for the rest his life. But is is discouraging sometimes when you lose someone you love...

Marriage Ceremony is just snap of your hand compare to being married and tied to someone. I always thinking about the song "I fall in love with my best friend" is what I wanted to build at first with my future mate. Until now i am still praying that God will give me the guidance and still waiting for His hint whom to marry. It is better to wait than to search...

My teacher shared us about his relationship with his wife when they are still in a BF-GF relationship. They have been through a lot of struggles and problems in relationship. They are working far from each other but their relationship get stronger because of the commitment and the communication that they have all the time. Even they quarrel but in the end their hearts will always long for each other. Another thing is their faithfulness for each other. His wife always ask him through phone if he has found someone while working far from each other. and my teacher was and is faithful to her. It is a good example knowing that a man and the woman are honest and faithful to each other.

When my teacher in college has the opportunity to go on study leave for masteral, his GF, now his wife was so worried enough. That's the time he notice that her GF (his wife now) is waiting for him to ask to marry her. Oh, of course we filipina are just waiting for our loveone to ask us for marriage. And the time he ask, his GF didn't think twice but accept the proposal . What a good feeling to be married to someone you love. Now they have 3 children and they are happily married and i see them most of the time now because his wife is also transferred to this locality as teacher in elementary.

[Edwin]

This is a very important decision. When you know, you know, and when you are ready, you are ready. It is important to know and be ready!

[stanley]

When you know she is the one, and you know it is time, then no need to wait for long, you might lose her.

[Edwin]

When you know she is the one, and you know it is time, then no need to wait for long, you might lose her.

Yes, true, get right on to it!!!!

[edeline]

When you know she is the one, and you know it is time, then no need to wait for long, you might lose her.

very well said